SPECIAL EPISODE! Why Moshiach is a Baal Habos and how to Mourn for the Beis HaMikdash When You Feel Nothing | with Rabbi Don Jarashow

Welcome And First Memories

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Without further ado, I think we're good. We had a nice niggla happen at this podcast. Welcome everyone into the Motivation Congregation Studios located in Oak and Vine in Lakewood. We have a very special episode for anyone who wants to join us here and the thousands of people across the Torah world that probably listen. Tens, tens of thousands. Tens of thousands. Hundreds? I'm not sure if it's hundreds of thousands or millions of thousands. Is everything millions of thousands? Yeah, now it is. But that listen to the Lechtech Torah podcast that you run and the motivation congregation podcast. Just having you in my house as Chosdan. Do you remember the first time we met? Talk to me right off the top of the bat. Where is the lat what what comes to mind as soon as you think the Suda? What's Suda? Parm? I can't remember much from that parm, but um Was that the first time I met you? What was it? That would have to be. Okay, I guess so that's what I remember. Turn it up. I remember I was it turn it up or was it turn it up? Turn it up. Turn it up. I remember walking up the Ramadascal steps towards your apartment. I think you were on the first or second floor, the wooden door. I'm wearing some sort of onesie uh, you know, you what whatever style that would be. I remember the amount of people that were stuffed into your apartment, and I remember that it was nothing but happiness, and that we kept having to take it up another level. Take it up another level, whether it that meant Torah or do you know where I'm from? Atlanta, Michigan. Do you know where do I know where you're from? You're from Muncie, right? I'm from Muncie. Uh well, let me tell you a little bit about let me tell the people a little bit about who they're meeting so that they understand what we're about to talk about. And you have to know not just from what someone says, but from where it comes. Your name is Don Jarashow, true or false? True. Your alumnus of Bheshraga of Muncy. True. You went to the Mirieshiva. True and proud. Smicha from BMG. Anyarosh Khabura. Former. You founded a Kolel and served as a show Lumeshev at Olami Mekarev. True.

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You should do the same. You want to get into that? What's Olami Mekarev? Olami.

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Olami. Olame, I said it wrong. Olami. What is Olami? I want to do it. They give away free money?

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What is it? It's a cube organization. Olami means like my world. It means that every Jew has this recognition, this sense of mission of the world that was created. Bishvili Niraha Olam. It's uh led, I don't know if it was found, but uh Rabbi Abi Kassel is very involved in the organization. Reboshikats from Torah Lynx. He's like the liaison. He's amazing. Shout out to uh Tora Lynx. Shout out to Torah Lynx. I think you should put a picture of Meshikats right next to Bruchum. I don't I wouldn't say replace a Bruchum, but perhaps next to him. I think would be I think be a good choice.

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He he's he's I think they have he has a photographic memory, they say he built Torah in a way that Moshikats? I think so. Yeah. Did they say something about that? Yeah, yeah, that's what I was saying. Uh um Don, you're famous, not just from that Purim studio, that Purim Suda, but you have launched the Lechtech Torah podcast. What's Lechtech? Tell me about Lechtech. How did you start this

Meeting Don And His Background

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thing? Let's figure out who you are before we talk about the 90s. Give it to me raw, give it to me unfiltered. What's Lechtig? They say that on Torah anytime that you are the founder of the Lechtech Torah podcast, Torah Initiative, Torah something. What is Lechtech.org?

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So what does Lechtech mean, Michal? Lechtech means to go. Incorrect. Lechtech means follow. Follow. So this organization, Lechtig, was founded. It's a long story we're not going to get into tonight. That's it. It's like a series, if not, if not.

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You founded it because of these of of the things that we're not getting into? Exactly. Well said. Does it have to do with good things or bad things? Okay. So let's skip that and we'll come back to it maybe. We can do that. Um so you found a lechtig. A lechtig, for a certain reason that you founded it, is a Torah distribution.

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You want to know what is Lechtig? In two sentences. I'll give you two in like eight words, maybe less. Tirah, Chizik, Kirov platform, four words. Wow. I got it down. You know, like I've always struggled with it. People say, what is Lechtig? Oh, give Sherman, I'm right, and we do this, and Khabur. That's not what it is. What's the essence of it? Tirah, Chizik, Kirif. Wow. And it's a platform. Tahak. Torah Chizak Kirif. Tahak. It's like a it's like a cousin of khitas.

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It it is anyone who you know, most people actually know, or if they don't know, they will know what Lechtech is. They should subscribe, they should get the content. It's you have a unique ability. Let's just put it straight. You have a unique ability to be able to take Torah and then make it emotionally charged for people because you can sense your authenticity. That's what it means to me. Either way, I brought you into the Motivation Congregation studios this evening because we began the nine days, which is a time period that many people don't look forward to.

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Can I stop you right there? Question for the for you, Mike. I know you're a big uh halakhist or halakhist? Uh chief decipherer of the law as a code. So I yeah. So does the nine days start by does it start by tas? And if you're gonna say it's by shkia, is it any Yeshla Hokal until tas? Like let's say your wife forgot do load of laundry.

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You want to know if I wanted to if I pour myself a glass of wine at 8 25, Shkia was 8 32 in Lakewood, let's say, and you want to know about 60 to 72 minutes after that, around 9.30, could I drink that glass of wine?

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Yeah, I I wouldn't I wouldn't I wouldn't go that far. I guess you know one can ask the question. I'm talking about something more like more uh mozzarella, like it's more it's more common. I forgot to do all the laundry, I forgot to wear all my stuff before. I was eating a flash of gasuda and then halfway through the salmon, right? I want to just finish it up. Like, can I can I go two minutes into Shkia? What do you say about that? Or is it a hard stop shkia comes and we're done?

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Uh wow, what a good question. My dad always said if you don't know, say you don't know. Okay. But I want to think about it. It's a good question, huh? It's a great question. I mean, I feel like the the suffix derisa la kumra la kula would come up. Um it's not a derisa.

What Lechtig Torah Really Is

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It's not a derisa. One thing I know about the 90s is the Rambah brings that that you're supposed to be Mimid in your Simcha from the beginning of Av, and then the Rambah says that there's something about the 90s. Okay, answer the question. I don't know.

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No, it came up tonight. I I'm I was gonna look it up in Kavitzalachas. That's usually my go-to for Bishmu Kamanetsky's Magnum Opus. Yes, right.

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It is right back there on my new fancy uh Swarm Shrunk right there, top left, top left in the corner. Wow, right there, Kavitzalachas.

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By the way, uh what I do want to do is um I do want to I don't want to say I'm close to Bishmu at all, but uh I'm a huge chassid. He actually gave me a when I was a chassis and last time I said no, I went with my kids, I make I make an effort to go as often as I can, which isn't that often. I want to go to him after uh sometimes it's been his manim and get a inscribed alakhas one of his farm from the godless himself. Uh-huh. He's a zakanadar, paisakadar, and he should have a richyamim. Um but I do think it's important to have to have uh it's very important. I think it's a maybe should go together.

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I in November 10th, five years ago, I called Philadelphia Yeshiva over and over and over again because I wanted to know if I should use the internet to spread Torah. I really wanted to start the motivation congregation. Called him over and over and over because my my Rashushiva Rib Nelson died said the only person who can pass in a question of using social media to spread Torah is Ribshmul Kamanetsky. So I called the Philadelphia Yeshiva, and finally someone else answers and they tell me that Rapshmul is not available. I'll call back later. He says, What do you want? I finally told him what I wanted. And he said, Oh, Ribshmul doesn't know about social media. I went back to my Rashishiva and they said that some that Rapsmuel they told me that Rapsmuel doesn't know about social media. My Rosh Shiva said, Trayv, of course Rapshmuel knows about everything. It's a Zuckinad door, ask him to Kasha. Finally got a hold of him. And I said, Do you think I should use the internet to spread Torah?

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And he said, We'll be back after a quick break.

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If you think it will help people, then you should do it. That's all I said. Surprised. That's all I said. If you think it will help people, then you should do it.

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Is that is that like the roots of all that you've done, all your incredible accomplishments? Well, I started it then.

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Wow. It's a fascinating uh. I never went on to social media besides for WhatsApp, but um okay, so talk to me about the nine days. I have um my own feelings of um trying to have a cognitive disassociation. Um people have this the TMC table. Uh oh, it knocked you right in the table.

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The studio, yeah. It's a it's yeah, it could use a little uh the mahogany is hard. TMC TMC construction.

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Yeah. It should be your first lame the curve. Amen. Um Zeichorban. Zeichr-Khorban. Okay, so before we got off into the Halacha Can You Be Makel by Shia, I want to know like this. Speak. I am 28, and I love to learn Torah and have a good connection with my rabbi, and I like to go to work and make money and pay my bills. Now God asks me to mourn for his holy based on Migdash that I never saw. I never witnessed, and I want to

When The Nine Days Start

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know if you can help me to feel that because I don't feel it. Speaking for myself or for others, I feel the cold shower and the pizza for nine days straight except for Shabbos. But I want to know you seem like a holy it. It seems like you know how to feel it, or it seems like it comes naturally to you.

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Talk to me. I aspire to be that which you said.

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Nothing comes natural, it's and any any any sort of I wouldn't call it feelings, I wouldn't call it being in the right zone, I would just call it sensitivity, which I think is attainable for anyone. Even someone who's distant, someone who's steeped in the wrong things, he's not where his head should be, he's not where his mind should be, he's not where his heart should be. But anyone can work on sensitivity, right? If you're not practicing, if you're not doing the right halaqas, you're not Sherman Shabbat, so you can't say, Oh, I have the right feelings towards it, so I can be Shermish Abbah, so you can't do that. But when it comes to when there's certain things in Yiddishkite, like feeling the Khurban, things like that, where yes, there's halachas about it, but there's something deeper, there's something more than actions, it's more, it's more about fine-tuning, it's more about chiseling away ourselves, our our mind gets wrapped around the world we live in, right? And when we try to minimize that, we try to make space for God, then really anyone is shy to that Avaidah, I believe. So I think anything that I will try to share.

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Tell me how I get sensitive.

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Some so we're gonna get there. So how do you get well? First of all, I think it's important to just realize that whoever it is that this message is reaching, they shouldn't say I can't get sensitive, because sensitivity is something anyone can practice, it's something anyone can tap into, right? If there's someone that's in pain, right, anyone can try to be empathetic and they can they can do it. The more that they work and they say this person is pain, they can't get there. So I think there's something special, there's something unique about this time of year, about Tishabov, where it's not like, oh, keep Shabbos or put on sits or put on phone or bakas or say telem. No, there's something different, there's something special in the sense that it's more of a sensitivity. Yes, on Tishabov we're gonna say kinis, and whether you do it or don't do that, or you can get to shore, or you can feel it, or you can start crying. That's not that's not the Indian. That's not the that's not necessarily what we're talking about. We're talking about being sensitive to God. Talking about making plays for God, and that's something just you know, setting the stage, setting the backdrop, that's something that anyone and everyone can do. You're you know what I'm saying? I love it. I love it.

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Okay, because it makes it not strict code of the law, but there's no human in the world that can't be more human, that can't just try to be more to be sensitive to feel.

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Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. In terms of the famous question that everyone feels, you feel everywhere that you asked. Again, what was your question? Say it again.

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My question is let's reiterate the question after you. Yeah, make it reiterate it.

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Because I love the question. We all think it every year, but before we really say something, hopefully it can be meaningful. Let's hear it again from the motivation congregation himself.

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The the the no matter who you are, you're obligated to mourn for the Besa Megdash. The Besa Megdash was the epicenter of the Jewish world with hundreds, cadres of mitzvos. Cadres? Loads. A lot of mitzvos are dependent upon having a Besa Megdash. And terrible evil people burned it to the ground because of our sins, and God is left homeless, and the Jewish people are left homeless, and God says mourn for it. Mourn because Jewish life is lacking without it. My question to you, my dear friend, is that you can't mourn for something that you've never had. You can't mourn for a Zadie that you never met.

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Wow, that brings it that hit that hits home.

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So explain to me, my dear Don.

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Don. How do you mourn for the base on Megdash? Okay. So I'm gonna take you back to a boat ride. I don't know. Probably at least 15 years ago.

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The first time I heard the schmooz. Because I was seeking, I was on a quest. I've been on a journey for some time, Rabbi Brook. This journey, this was I was actually at sea on a boat, and I was listening to shit from Aboradinsky. Oh,

Building Sensitivity To Churban

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he's so good. Wanna get should we get into him a little bit now? Maybe he would be like Romeshakatz, Grochmanovitz, and Salah Rodinski.

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Just subscribe to his podcast and app. I get but get me back. You're listening to Reb Ruven. Okay. So to Reb Rodinsky.

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He said the r the the the reason why again did we didn't prepare this. This is totally off cuff. This is raw. We all this almost didn't happen tonight. Um I actually started I drove home. I was three quarters of the way home. And uh you called me back. Hashim obviously wanted it to happen, so maybe it's for Mia Imlais Kazois. Maybe it's for this Havens Avenue.

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Exactly.

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So he said the following muscle, which the reason why it's the fee, it's it's on the tip of my tongue is because there's not a year that goes by that I forget this. It's it's my Tishbah every year. It's the question that everyone's asking, but because it's so true, it's so amistic, it resonates so much and it's just natural. This is this is my goal too. This this can answer any anyone in a hundred years. We shouldn't have Tishabov no world. Anyone who this is, I believe, for me, this was the answer. It really, I think you can really uh shed light. So let me tell you, let me tell you the story. The story goes the story goes like this it was an old couple who were married for many, many years. Unfortunately, they didn't merit having children throughout those very painful, long, long years. And finally, after about 25 years, there was a ray of hope. There was this specialist, this doctor that said, Come to me, let me see what I can do. They booked appointment with great anticipation they waited for the appointment. They were hoping that after all of these years of pain, of tears, of soaked pillows, of shattered hopes, shattered dreams, that this would be the end. They arrive at the doctor's office, and it's many hours of procedure, of questions, of tests, and the doctor says, I have good news for you. It's news that's going to change your life. I say, Well, what's the good news? They thought there was there was only one option. The good news is that we're gonna have the doctor says, the good news is the greatest news and the greatest news of life. We can you can assist, we can help you get pregnant and you can have a child. And the news was unbelievable. They they but they knew there was but the doctor said, listen, there's one caveat.

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The caveat is that unfortunately your wife is not going to be able to live. And then their stomachs dropped. What do we do?

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On the one hand, we want to have a child, on the other hand, it's it's life itself. Are we gonna is she gonna die to have a child? But they'll be able to have Daris, Darusakayama, Mitsus, and etc. And sleepless nights back and forth, thinking it over, asking their rov, trying to figure out what's the right thing to do. And finally they come to the decision, they're going back to the doctor, they're gonna go through the procedure, Kaaba. The doctor was able to help Isia Deshmaya, she became pregnant. Nine months later, she had the baby, baby boy. Baby boy's born, so exciting. And of course, along with that comes the tragic news that the mother didn't make it. Okayers go on, and every year the father would say, Kanas for the wife. It's very, very sad. The boy got older and he was such a Tyrazisa little kid, and it was such a big simcha when he became a little upshot boy to cut the hair and to lick the Alephbeys. It was Mamish, it was it was unfathomable. The the the simcha de nachas that the father had of bringing up this young child. As little Yaakov got older, he excelled, he did amazing in his shiva, first grade, second grade, he was always the best boy in his class. And in sixth grade already, things already started getting challenging. There was a bully, he started getting ticked off and upset, and he became got a little wild and started acting out. Seventh grade declined a little bit more. End of seventh grade, by the time it was time for his bar mitzvah already, he he was he was really just an entire different different child. And in the beginning of eighth grade was his bar mitzvah. And he wasn't holding by mom by anything. The summer was a terrible time for him. He was pyruch pyramitsvis. Hardly religious. Hardly religious. And the father thought it was a phase that would pass, but unfortunately he really uh it really stuck through. And the time for his brahmitzvah. And the father said, Yaqov, come, let's let's sit down and talk. I said, listen. So now it's gonna be a brahmitzvah. You're such a good boy. You bore me so much nahas. It's me and you all these years. We're buddies. We're friends. I love you more than anything. I know you struggled the past three years. Can you put it on the phone? You're making me so proud.

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I'm not asking you for shakers, I'm not asking for machabah. And he says, okay, fine, no problem. Tahati I'll do for you. Gets new. Okay. A couple days go by and you're getting closer to the yard side.

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But unfortunately, between the barmitts and the yard side again, it was a decline and he wasn't. And this time though, when the when Yaqub threw off his, he was done with his tulin, he was done with everything, his father knew like really the chances weren't uh weren't high that he's gonna get him back this time. The yard side was coming up and it was his first yartside being a barmitzva Baha. And the father comes over to Ya'cob and he says, Tatak, let's sit down again. He says, Another film was very hard for you, but listen, mommy's yarts is coming up in a few days. It's gonna be your first yarts that is the barkyuvo to say kadish for your mother. He says, like, uh okay, like I'm not I'm ta I love you and you know we can still be friends and I respect you, but I'm not coming to show, I'm not doing it. He says, Yaqov, I I don't really know if I ever really sat down with the entire whole story. He says, Ta, I know, like Ma but when I was born she died, and sad, and but like you know, we moved past. He says, No, you don't you don't really understand. He says, let me let me walk you through the story. He says, You don't understand. He said, for 25 years we didn't have kids. Went to the doctor, sleepless nights. Your mother didn't just die when you were born. What happened is your mother made a conscious, intentional decision that she's giving up her life so that you should live.

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And Yaku says, I can't I I didn't know that.

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He starts choking up starts tearing and it's holding perspective that his mother literally made a decision to die for him to change everything for him.

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And he said, How you have a deal? I say karash.

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He was quoting one of the Magidim of Yushalaim, maybe it's a Rashalm Sajan, said the same thing as with Tishabov. He said, We Taka don't understand. We never saw the Besam Magdash. We never lived in times where there was a Kingadal, where there was the clarity of the Ur Matumim, where there was that dwekus of going to the Besamikdash, of being like the regal, we never saw.

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But one thing is for sure that we know Hashem is in so much pain.

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And although we didn't witness the Besamikdash, and although we didn't witness those times, but Hashem had everything, and Hashem had destroy all of that, and those are the times we're living in now. So just like that little Yankov who of course acquiesced when he realized the full scope, even though he wasn't there, even though he didn't see his mother, but he understood the severity, he understood the weight of the decision that his mother made to literally give up her life. So that he should exist, that he should live, and then was a no-brainer that he's gonna do whatever he can to memorialize, to commemorate, to pay tribute and respect to his mother. The same thing is with Tishab. We must realize that yes, there's a feeling of distance, yes, there are many thousands of years that have passed since the times of the Base of Mikdash. We can never forget that the Base of Mikdash was everything for Gandhish Baru. Hashem is in pain, and we need to do whatever we can to put away our own feelings of disconnect, we weren't there, and say yes, that might be true. But no, one thing is for certain that Hashem is in pain, the Shinah is the Gulusa, the Shinah is in exile, and as hard as it is during our summer, the sunny days we could be swimming, we could be having fun, we could be eating meat, we could be wearing new clothes, all these great things. But Hashem says for a few days, can you just put your excitement away? Can you just mute yourself a little bit and make space for me because I'm in pain? So, yes, it's the question we're all thinking about. How do we do it? How do we attach ourselves to something that's so abstract, that we're so detached from, both in time and physical and emotional, we never saw, we never experienced it. The answer is that it's not it's not about that. It's not about the sticks of the physical mortar mortal structure of the Vesa Mikdash. It's more about realizing that there's a God in pain that does, that gives up everything for us, that does everything. His kindness is endless, he's machakah, he's the person, he's the benevolent king, he's Avinu Malkeinu, he does everything for us. And if we know he is in pain, we have to make space for him, and that's what Hashem is asking. Do we have to stop our entire summer and sit out and do tikk and cali all day and all that? No, not that's not what Shem's asking. He's saying for nine days, for three weeks, on Tishab, sit down with me, weep with me, just show me you care. Just show me that our values align. Show me that your pain is my pain. And when we do that, when we show Hashem that we care, that's not just empathizing with God, but that's also the ticket to redemption.

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Am I wrong that the the uh pain that we're supposed to endure during the nine days, the cold showers, it's not just to make you sad. I don't I'm not I I think there's a goal of making you minimizing your happiness. But then I think you have to ask yourself, why does God want us to minimize our happiness? How does minimizing our happiness connect with the feeling the pain of God? Because I have less meat or less wine, how does that connect with to me? It connects with what you're saying, with the fact that there's God wants you to have some space

The Story That Makes Mourning Real

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to pay attention, to kind of pump the brakes on the on the distractions or on on some of the things that we get involved in, so that you could finally feel, feel these are things the the things that we're taking that that that that that are pleasurable, sometimes numb, sometimes connect in a way that we get over involved. But when we put the brakes on them, it just creates more space to be able to feel the pain. I think that's exactly right. It's exactly dead on.

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Something like that. No, it's not something like that. That's exactly the point. If a person likes if a person doesn't like meat, likes meat a little bit, it's not like his favorite thing. On an average night, ferricino alfredo or like a mic sandwich, 50-50. So for him, the nine days, it's like, okay, I'll eat ferricine any night. Big Ziti, Aquan Parmesan. So for him, that's that's that's not that's not what it's about. It's about knowing that I'm setting limits, that I'm setting boundaries, and that I'm I'm crossing this off. For nine days, this isn't part of my agenda, this isn't part of my schedule, this isn't part of my routine. Let's say I like cold showers more. Okay, that's not the point. The point is that I'm showing God that I'm limiting myself. I'm limiting my materialism, I'm limiting, limiting my bandwidth of what I can do. I'm limited. I am limited. It's showing Hashem, Hashem, I realize you are limited, and I too will limit myself. And Lanchikness Dail, Khazal, Shaqnarch mandated, they delineated the guidelines, the rules of how to do that. So we have a Shachnarh to follow. But beyond the letter of the law is also the meaning, the intention behind it, and that's to tell us that's so that we act, that's so that we conduct ourselves in a way of limitations. That's for nine days a year or three weeks, we're not listening to music, person doesn't like music and say, Oh, for me, it's great. I don't have to, you know, I don't like music anyway. No. The answer is that as a call, objectively, when we're not listening to music, when we're not wearing freshly laundered clothing, when we're not eating meat, we're showing Hashem, we can think about it. These are things that we should be thinking about. Just like that kid Yaakov that when we when he heard, oh, there's a bigger story that my mother gave up her life for me. How can I not shift? How can I not say kadish? How can I not choke up and tear from that? So for us too, wow, Hashem, you're in pain. So the whole entire year, maybe I'm not thinking about you enough. Maybe I'm not thinking of what it means when I say Uvnei, Yushlaim, you're al Qalidish every time on a bench, or Yushlaim, Yah Khabrachmash. Yeah, I don't even know what it means. I never thought about it. But for three weeks, nine days a year, Hashem is saying, just just think about me. Do small things that demonstrate that you know I exist, that demonstrate that you know that I'm in pain, that I am lacking, that Mishina has no place to reside.

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And that's it. That's it. That's it. This it's gut-wrenching, it's relatable that the boy in the story du I wonder what his kaddish looked like. The story doesn't end. So he said, I'm gonna go through and say Kaddish. I wonder what his kaddish actually looked like in the end of the story. If it was sobbing and honest, that makes a great end of the story. It's almost when we sob on Tishabov, it brings to life that you're like a boy who's crying over that he just knows that he's been given the ultimate gift, but he doesn't even know how much he was given.

SPEAKER_04 33:22

That's exactly right. That's exactly right. Spot on.

SPEAKER_02 33:25

When you think about the nine days, I think about the reasons that the Baysan Migdash was destroyed. I think about that Chazal say, well, it's clear from the calendar that we had many chances to save the Bashan Migdash back then. It happened sieges at certain times and certain famines at certain times and certain destruction of the walls, and there was there was an ability for us to save ourselves. But because the base Hamygdash Harishon was destroyed because of Gilea Rai Shvi Hazdamin and Avaidazara. The second one was because of uh Sinashinum. Sinashinum. If you think they we don't have to answer this. If you think we rebuilt the base Hamygdash, let's say it comes down from the sky. I think it's a Machagus. Whether it's just gonna be built naturally or it's gonna fall from the heavens. And then it's rebuilt. And Mashiach comes. Do you think we have enough Avas Israel to keep it keep it there? Or let me phrase the question, less depressing. It was destroyed because of something that we had an issue with, something wasn't doing well. It's our job to perfect it to bring it back. And when we do put an effort into it, Ashram will see that and bring it back. My question is when it comes to Avas Yisrael, when it comes to building the base Hamigdash, when it comes to people having their differences, when it comes to working on themselves, the nine days are to work on yourself for what it is that we lost. Is there an Avaida? I'm thinking more about Avas Israel, but is there a specific Avaida that you think someone should be more involved in during the nine days? Because what we messed up made us lose it, so what we should do properly will make it come back.

SPEAKER_03 35:27

Alright, so I think that's a great question. And I do have an answer. But I think it's a great question. Thank you. You want the answer? Not the answer, an answer.

SPEAKER_04 35:39

I want your answer. The Gumara says, Kolham Sabo, Ayush Laim. Zahibra Bisimch, right? Whoever mourns of Islamikdosh will merit its rebuilding, rejoice in its rebuilding. Right, we send Yigdal every day. Lifdos. He will redeem who? Those who wait. Mike, who are the Mikhakekates? You and me, baby. No. The ones that are waiting. Me, you, and anyone else who's waiting. You and the crew. Who's longing? So how do you how do you right? I'm saying so it's Khazals, it's Kmartancha, Khanasaq Dayla, right? So working with those two

Limits That Create Space For God

SPEAKER_04 36:25

very fundamental, right? Whoever's Masabal will see it. Hashim sends the redemption to those who await it. Fine. So how do you so Masabal is simple? Masabal is that you mourn, you cry, you But how do you await? How do you wait? How do you await? Who are you awaiting? Does it say you have to await by running around and hugging people all day? Does it say you have to await by guarding your eyes? Does it say you have to await by eating kosher? Doesn't there's no there's no uh there's no specification. It says Mishikenu. You know what Moshikeinu is? Who who's who are the mihaqes? Who are the waiters? Who are the ones that are waiting and pining? Who are they? And what are they pining for? Who are they waiting for? Who is it? Messiah? Yeah, but deeper than that? Uh God. Right. So is there a specific like prescription or are there like specific things that you have to do? Or is it an overall demonstration that I'm awaiting for you, God? And however I choose, however I feel, there are there are I mean there are millions of yidin, right? With millions of different Avaidas. This is something that I think as we as we get farther out of the like confines of yeshiva, which is so important, the the Dalid Khusi Bismeash of Yeshiva, where everyone is the same, and there's one Avaid for everyone, but like as we kind of you know continue on on our job. But yeah, we spread out some of us are good at different things, realizing that like people think different, people learn different, they have different interests, different Avaidas, have different khrichis, some people are strengths, weaknesses, skinny fat, fast, slow. Exactly. All these different things spiritually as well, right? So all these different things, right? Hashem created my Rebbe always used to say Rikiva Grasnas, Bishragah, used to say Hashem. You walk into the ice cream store with a hundred different people, right? Likely a hundred different people want a hundred different flavors of ice cream. The Ibish is no different. The Ibish created millions of different people with millions of different Ibish. And Hashem doesn't want that. If you're chocolate, that you're giving a vanilla. If you're a big Lamden, you should sit and uh finish. No, if if you're if you're a Lamden, then then learn Mkhaims and pound that. If you're if you're a Vakic guy and you eat very hard, yeah, try your best to learn some uh the fim or whatever, but but but but get involved, pound those. So everyone's gotta find their calling, their path. So it's the same thing. Huad Din. It's the same sugya for Fatishabov. It's the same thing for being a machake kate. It's the same thing for michae kites. You every person has to tap into themselves, listen inside to the Nishamah, to the silent whispers of the heart, to the echoes and the murmurs of the Nefesh and the Nishamah. And and here, what Hashem is talking to me. Hashem wants something from me. What's my tafkid? What's my calling? What's my mission? And when I lean into that, when I heed that call, so for some people, Loshanhar is very easy. So it's not their avoid. They don't have to kill themselves. That's not a demonstration. I don't like that. It's not showing Hashem all that he it's easy for him not to talk, Lashanah. He doesn't talk ever. He's an introvert. He has anxiety if he opens his mouth. So for him, is he being a macake kates? Is he waiting for the king by not talking? Absolutely not. What's his avoidah? His avoid is to go out and to whatever, to Davin or to go out of his house to do mitz or to do fashid because he's an introvert. So to go do for others, to toy for the velk. It's amazing.

SPEAKER_02 40:04

It cannot be overstated. He was saying it in a way, if I may, explain how I understood it.

SPEAKER_04 40:16

It doesn't need an explanation. It's just perfect. It's perfect. Of course.

SPEAKER_02 40:21

It gives the the depth of when I was in Yeshiva, getting the shear is everything. When I was in the first years of Kolel, there was trying to get specifically the Rajba and what Rashi's Kiloimar is changing in this. And then I struggled to find what am I supposed to do in my real estate career. But it hit me also that if God wants me to make a paranormal, probably I followed my Dash Tyre where I thought I would have to who knows to be able to what I enjoyed and what and what I started to learn is that wait a second, Judaism doesn't stop when you after Klimer. Does not stop signature? Or actually now be involved in Khush and Mishbah I want to speak Hush and Mishbah Kaila because now I'm involved with someone stole my commission, so now I want to fight back. But now it's a halakha thing. I mean, I wouldn't say that out loud. But meaning when I mean to say that facetiously in a way of that it's not what lights my fire, but when I get a hardcore muster schmooz, I'll listen to it and I'll probably be good. I could make a Kabbalah to not speak Lash and Hara. It's not my challenge, but it's not what I see in the world. I feel like you Hashem lets you see in the world what you need to see. You can see your own. Why'd you start Lachtig? You saw the world needed something and you wanted to bring something, right?

SPEAKER_04 41:58

100%.

SPEAKER_02 41:59

Each person. It's an opinion of mine who could be their own Torah content creator. They they do need to do Lilmoid and they need to do Lilameid. Because when you're Lilameid, you it you are you start vocalizing and starting a movement of what Tara is yours, and you start to speak out what you're relating to, and each person you start to have as a total wants to start a dafymi on on the on the Saysa Khershin. Some guy wants to start the dafyomi on Ariyah Kaplan's anthology, something that speaks to him that he's bringing to the world.

SPEAKER_04 42:38

That he's connecting to God with. Yeah,

Awaiting Redemption Through Your Mission

SPEAKER_04 42:40

he's connecting to God. 100%. Everybody needs to write a book. So that's Makat. So for him, writing uh writing a safer on. You have interesting Svaram. Masur, Halacha, uh, Siddhart, Hirsch. You want to connect Josh's Haran to the Dafiyimi or to the Amryam or to the Raisa, and that's your thing, and that you're gonna write a safer, and that that's gonna be your present to the world.

SPEAKER_00 43:05

That's it.

SPEAKER_04 43:06

Okay, so you're being Mikhaq Kates. You're showing Hashem that it's my Tayrah, and I'm designated time every single day. And right, Hashem created the world. The Tamil Tayyah Kane Gulam. For another person, he can sit and learn all day long. He's the next rebel yashu, but he's very hard at doing khasid. Okay, so for him, it's cool. So everyone has to realize that there's no objective, there's no one size fits all. This isn't like you know, you go and get your little cap and everyone wears the same one. We we are programmed to think that.

SPEAKER_02 43:30

You know what? You know what people mess up? They could just you know where it knocks them off from doing this? Why didn't everyone start a Lechtig podcast like like you? I think people compare success is what others do, so they want to mimic that success. So they don't create what it they truly want to bring out. Say that in English. They define success as writing the Mishnah Torah or by Learning IRISA or by something that is done in a very mainstream way. So if what they bring to the world is a little not mainstream, they don't define it as success.

SPEAKER_04 44:11

People run away from being off beat. Off the beating track. Doesn't talk to them.

SPEAKER_02 44:32

But they just make their success based on what the world assumes to be a successful person as opposed to what they themselves can do.

SPEAKER_04 44:41

Fair.

SPEAKER_02 44:42

That's what I mean.

SPEAKER_03 44:42

Yeah, I heard that.

SPEAKER_02 44:45

Um do you do uh Shvi Hasdamim or Avaidazara? Not not not on weekdays. Right. Right, right. Me too. And Gilear Rayas, we all try to it's a pretty nasty world that we've got to do. But we have Valimain. Shout out to Valemine. It helps the boys and and and Unbelievable. And constant uh the battle for it.

SPEAKER_04 45:11

I think we should share this by the way, Barabim. How long are we in? Fifty minutes. Fifty minutes. I think it's geday. I'm not sure if it's good. Talk to me. Well I'll cut it out if it's not good. He's just great. Which side of Ribiruchum? On the side of Rebecca or Rebra Dinsky?

SPEAKER_02 45:37

Uh uh oh, you don't put him on the wall up here? Yeah. Can't move my wife's um Hadluckas Neiros poster. Can't move the picture of Rabcham or there might be some space above the book closet, above the um book closet. I don't know, we'll see. Anyway, if my landlord let me um expand. Okay, yeah, that's talk to me if we're putting up.

SPEAKER_04 45:57

There's something unbelievable. And this ties in also to mechaqetes. If you struggle with Shmear Sanaim, you want to show Hashem the Mikhaq Kates, that when you walk down the street, putting your head down.

SPEAKER_02 46:09

Someone let's say it doesn't struggle with Shmear Sanaim. Someone who struggles with their purity and the fact that the world is a cesspool and that the human body is naturally drawn to these things, but yet God says don't be. So you're fighting a serious battle that's an honest battle.

SPEAKER_04 46:24

So someone in that position, your advice is Well, I was gonna tie what he was gonna say, but I was just saying also that we can tie this in also to being Mikhaqats, that you can demonstrate, you can show a Shandra Mikakikates with being Shamirana Nayam, with being Shamir Ghouf. Like there's no there's no end. I was just I was protect the body of circling back that we're talking about before, trying to segue into this kind of new uh um new inning over here. But his Y Said was he has he has a question, and this is Tishab Albos because it's the Avaid in Basamikdash. He asks, right, so what's so why can't he man a manas? He says so the Paiser says the reason is because on Yumkipur, on the Holy's Day, by the Avaidah, when he's doing the Mosheid Gavaida, he might have a mahjava mahshava zara that will nullify his certain. Basically that will cause that will that will have in mind a certain lady who want her, and it's gonna cause the husband to die. It's gonna cause the husband to die.

SPEAKER_02 47:28

Okay.

SPEAKER_04 47:29

So fractis. See from here, we see from here the kayak of the Tahara, of the Sitra Akhra, and we see even that the Khan Goddall is susceptible and he's vulnerable, that even in Yuslaim in the Bisamikdash on Nim Kippur when he's doing La Vaida, that he might be thinking not about some random lady, but an ish-ish, a forbidden woman, a forbidden woman, and he's gonna cause her husband to die, and then he's gonna go marry her, and therefore, from the beginning the lach is that almanas are off limits. This is who says this? This is uh we can ask. The Mishra says that he's asit al-amana, so the question is why? So the answer is because this whole shakutara. But what comes out is that because he might have these thoughts on Yum Kippur in the Qadish, he's gonna kill the man, and he's gonna take so because of that, we preempt that because we realize the kayak of the Tzuhara of how strong the force is. Come on, highlight well threatening.

SPEAKER_02 48:43

No, I that that's we've got to find the Marwakam for this.

SPEAKER_04 48:46

But when I heard this, I thanked him. I sent him a message that said, Rubber Spring. I've seen a lot of mans, but this is this is something special.

SPEAKER_02 48:52

There's a lot of the 12-step program, I think. One of the steps is that you have to have some honesty with the struggle and represent a higher power and then submit to it and be better. But if somebody just this Vart makes it a little bit more real, that um happens to be. I have a Psha in the Tysis. It for me, the more I try not to think about a pink elephant, the more I'll think about a pink elephant. So the holiest times is when I get the silliest thoughts. That's just my Pshaw, by the way. It's not it's not the Psha Romer Subhosperling is is it's the right Psha and Tyson, but that's my Psha in the Mishnah is that whenever I'm trying to think the most utmost holy in the holiest time when I'm standing in front of the Kisia cover, I think that I'm gonna remember like a joke that my dad told me when I was a kid, something like that. But this may make me um that is a big kizak. Um you say kinos with a little bit of um fervor. Do you know what the words mean when you recite Kinos on Tishabov? So I'm actually making a program this year, which of course you are. Yeah, I actually want to talk about that after. But um Can't tell me now I'm live on air.

SPEAKER_04 49:57

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 49:57

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SPEAKER_04 50:40

So maybe you could uh maybe we'll talk.

SPEAKER_02 50:42

What time do you want me to speak?

SPEAKER_04 50:44

Okay, so we'll talk. Um, corporate sponsors go here. We have Brok Sham five corpus some anonymous ones even, so it's really Hashem give a lot of scientists around this program, but we're hopefully we're gonna be a big toalist for for the for the time reservoir community.

SPEAKER_02 50:58

How do I say this? I don't get

Kinot, Programs, And Shared Pain

SPEAKER_02 51:00

deleted or canceled. Um even though my wife and I always discuss that if I could just get my podcast to be put into Kherum, I'd finally make it, and people would subscribe because that's when you you you know you want to read the making of a goddle or or or other things that are you know forbidden, they go, they go wild. So I'm trying not to to say anything like that. Maybe they have like a violent about TMC.

SPEAKER_04 51:24

For what? That don't look at TMC? Like, yeah, that'd be a good that would be a good marketing tactic. Make like an organization like a like a like an anti like don't look, don't subscribe to TMC.

SPEAKER_02 51:39

Is that the kinos is some of the most incredibly deep Jewish poetry that if somebody did actually not just read them but understood the depth as a college boy puts into Shakespeare, if at least a young Jewish chap would try to put that focus on Rebelazar Hakalir and understand the incredible balance in his words, in his in his synonyms, in his total grasp on Chazal in this poem, it would be wonderful. You think the world would be a grab better place?

SPEAKER_04 52:28

The world would be a much better place if we could learn Ribalosa how we're like we learned. Maybe we should like integrate it into the regular like yeshiva system curriculum.

SPEAKER_02 52:37

It's just people hate kinis and people hate hate anything that's in the gray box in the sitter that isn't part of the regular because it it it it elongates their prayers. But I'm a big fan of the stories. I was always confused about this. Do we kind of just throw all suffering into the three weeks? Like sometimes when I go to a nine days program, it always bothered me that someone gets up and talks about I don't know, their great grandfather who lost, was lost in the Holocaust, which is a terrible thing, but it doesn't, it's not really based on Mi'kdash.

SPEAKER_01 53:07

It's all it's all hystericalists, it's all that means hystericalist for those are the bus from the area from out of town.

SPEAKER_02 53:13

You have people that are from out of town watching you? Indiana, California, shout out Portsmouth, Virginia, shout out Miami, shout out Brooklyn, Brooklyn's out of town because Lake was in town, baby. Such an eclectic group you have.

SPEAKER_04 53:26

Well, it's all a result, it's all uh it's all a manifestation of the gullus. So you can talk about you stop do talking, Teshabov, and I think it makes it just so much more real. It's realizing that there was one Mikara, that there's one source of all pain. This is the whole the whole haq with the a haq with the schwab and the schwabkinna and the that's it. You look in the article, they Ayn Shum, but they they talk about this, but the answer is that you don't make new new fangled stuff because it's all really a result. Everything's a byproduct of the original, of the original pain. And the more we believe in that, I think fucker. I think I think I think I mean it sounds like you're a little bit perturbed or uh flummoxed. Flummoxed by like walking into a thing and a guy talking about his grandfather holocaust.

SPEAKER_02 54:13

No, I'm into his grandfather and the holocaust, and I'm not happy that he died, but like different than than God's holy house that got destroyed twice.

SPEAKER_04 54:19

But I think I think really there's a perspective, there's a POV that realizing and associating and drawing a direct line between anything that happens in 2026 to the original Khorban and being cognizant that it's all connected, and that me stubbing my toe or my grandfather that was that perished in the Holocaust or October 7th, and we have like ironclad realization, firm belief that this isn't something new, this isn't something that was like off the script. No, no, this was a this is a direct manifestation of Shrikina Baglusa of that the Shina is in pain, and there's nothing else. We're living in Shrine Baglusa times. There's it's pre-Korban and post-Khorbin, and we realize that everything post-Korbin is all because of that original Khorbin of the Khorbin bias.

SPEAKER_02 55:12

Let me lay something on you. Go. It's getting late, so we'll only do like another 10 more minutes or so. Whatever works for you, I'm here all night. Um, well, no, because I want you to leave soon because I can go to sleep. I can be here all night. Actually, um, wait a second before I lose it. Let me roll something by you. I am an aspiring Jew. You're an aspiring rabbi and realtor. Aspiring rabbi and ambitious realtor. I'm sorry. If you need multifamily buildings in New Jersey or you need a house in Lakewood, 757-679-4497. Isn't that the same number for TMT? See?

SPEAKER_04 55:46

Yeah, it's all one thing. Uh there's no hysteria.

SPEAKER_02 55:49

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SPEAKER_04 55:54

Well, if you open up like a restaurant, is that also gonna be like you're gonna get it in the fold? The Motivation Pizzeria.

SPEAKER_02 56:02

And it'll just be part of the spine, you know, yeah, and a and a and a professional pizza maker. When I started it, I bought all the websites for the hat that I could ever think of, so no one could ever steal them. I own the motivationcongregation.com, I own mbrook.com, I own um mbrooktora and muster.com, mbrook business. Like uh I just bought them all for like five dollars each just because I wasn't sure where I was gonna go with it. And there's a church in Phoenix that owns MotivationCongregation.com, so we're motivationcongregation.org

Wanting The Mikdash To Serve Fully

SPEAKER_02 56:30

because they wouldn't sell it to me.

SPEAKER_04 56:31

It also makes more sense because you're an organization, aren't you? True, it's enterprise.

SPEAKER_02 56:35

We are officially 501c3.

SPEAKER_04 56:37

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 56:37

That's good. Let me tell you why. And you tell me if if I'm if I'm um too aspiring and not and don't have my feet on the ground.

SPEAKER_04 56:46

Do you think any of your listeners are gonna make it in an hour and three minutes?

SPEAKER_02 56:50

I'm just curious. Um my mom.

SPEAKER_04 56:53

Okay. That's okay, that's enough.

SPEAKER_02 56:55

My wife. Really? Totally. She will. Um your wife. Not even that when with that goes.

SPEAKER_05 57:05

Just say yes. Just say yes.

SPEAKER_02 57:06

I'm not gonna say yes, it goes without saying. Okay. Wasn't even on the table. My grandparents. And my father and parents. You know, anyone who's a content creator and a trying to be a low mo to Lalamaid guy, if you're doing it for your listeners or subscribers, you're out. You're out. Out. Do it because this is really fun to do. And whether or not anyone listens to us, it doesn't matter because it's fun for us to preach our ideas into these microphones. Yes. 100%.

SPEAKER_04 57:32

Very well said. Couldn't think of a better thing to do with my time.

SPEAKER_02 57:36

Um So there's 613 mitzvos. You know, like we can only do 90 of them now.

SPEAKER_04 57:42

Right.

SPEAKER_02 57:43

So I try to be a good one. So you're gonna ask me which one's my favorite one because I'm gonna pack out. Which one? Which one? Which one's your favorite mitzvah to do? No, don't do that. I'm not gonna ask you that. What is your favorite mitzvah?

SPEAKER_04 57:52

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 57:53

Don't believe me?

unknown 57:54

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 57:55

I think I like Simcha Syanth.

SPEAKER_04 57:58

What were you gonna ask? I just wanted to make sure you were gonna ask what I did.

SPEAKER_02 58:00

Okay, what was I gonna ask you? I was gonna ask, I was gonna ask you, I was gonna tell you, you know why I want to base the Micdash? Nope. But I want to know. Because there's God put me in this world to serve him and he said, bring me 613 mitzvos. And I wanted to be the most deliciously ever brought mitzvos. I want it to be a cowboy steak with a fancy glass of the cave wine. I want you to bring it in perfect crystal and serve it to me with all 613 mitzvah. You see, we can only do like 90 of them now. So we can only serve God with plastic silverware and with cheap turkey, and we can't even give him the product that he wants us to give. So if we're aspiring to be good Jews, sometimes I think, well, God, can you give me the base on Migdas back? Because I want to actually do what you're asking me, but I see I can't get that done unless you give me this so that I can actually give you back that.

SPEAKER_04 59:00

Interesting. You feel me? Yeah, the Peleoites talks about even uh Lentis Tele talks about doing mitz with a sib or with Khabura. It's Aisches, it's called Khabura.

SPEAKER_02 59:12

And he's amazing. That was last week's podcast on the weekly Pasha podcast, the Kay of a Khabura. Gotta have a Khaburah. Okay, go for it. I'm telling you, there's something special here. Yeah. Okay, the Peliotes, Khabura. Khabura like a punch in the face where it's wound, or Khabura like joining a congregation. Which one do you think? First one. Okay, the second one. Go.

SPEAKER_04 59:32

Which one? The second one.

SPEAKER_02 59:33

Okay, good.

SPEAKER_04 59:34

Khabura. Of doing things with a con with uh with a congregation. Do you think he was talking about doing things with the motivation congregation or any congregation?

SPEAKER_02 59:43

He probably was talking about doing things with the motivation congregation that you should hit the like, subscribe, rate review.

SPEAKER_04 59:47

It was Lime Bayakama, like I didn't even have to say it. So funny. IT tests, Peliites, Ice Cas. Okay, so I'll tell you so. He said So the So I I was actually I was borderline astounded by his uh it was like an audible thing to write, but he wrote it today and we're talking about this. But this Nikuda Yesanit is an audible. Yeah, they're doing things. Well, he's no I wouldn't get to learn every day. Join Haxik, by the way. Start a WhatsApp group, got 200 people, and you can have a group. I have one. You should do it also.

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I'm in. Send me the group. Like, subscribe, rate, review, donate. Wait, but first tell me the tell Daliites. Get in touch with Ali Mats. Shout out to Haksik or Risa.

SPEAKER_04 1:00:26

Not Haksik. So he says that there's something extremely important of doing things with a mitzvah. He's told Madam with a minion, and that you get all these amains and Ishmirabbas, and he says that if you dive in the khidas, then Hashem scrutinizes Fila and he and he takes out his magnifying glass, and you can't, it can't be Ulah, and might even be uh he calls it it might even be disqualified and in vain and all these things. And then he says, So the reason he like writes an insumation says, like Bakr, after we discuss all this, you should always he says, like you should always do your mitzhis with a khaburah with a glow. Drop it to the microphone. Should always, but this is why I have the Holly Land, because you don't have to look for the mic, it just stays right there.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:08

I mean that's it's good to start off your podcast with and until you go, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 1:01:14

He says the reason why you should do all your mitzhis with a minion with uh with khaburah is so that you do all your mitzhis in the most optimal level. So it means you gotta go uh Sheikh Lulov, you gotta go Davin, you gotta go learn, do everything with that so that you can maximize on everything you do in the most optimal level to bring Hashan the greatest Nachasurah. He does write that by everywhere, but I just thought today you're saying this word about the reason of Daven for the Pesamikdosh is so that we can ask Hashem to give us what we need to do to serve him the most optimal level and punk this on the palyotes today. So I thought I thought I thought it would I I thought it'd be remiss.

SPEAKER_02 1:01:48

You like that word? It's a great word. It's a revision word, it's a good Rebbe word. Your old Plutchak word. He's great shout out. Big bris this past week. Big, big, big brisk. Named it after Mike Trass, baby. Big shocker there. I had 10 bucks on that one. Yeah. He was gonna name it after Mike Trass, but I didn't win any money because it was right. So but the odds were in my favor. But you hear what I'm saying. I hear what you're saying. Totally. Okay. Let's end with this. Go. I am now sitting back in my chair. Matsu Shabbos Parshas Nachamo. Shabis Nachamo. And the morning is over. What's something I can do that would be considered I had a successful nine days? Tell me successful nine days. Give me something not like you.

SPEAKER_04 1:02:32

So Nishiva would say that the Vedas would just start now. Now is really the time to start being Misabl.

SPEAKER_02 1:02:36

Right. But tell me but just be Misabo. And then and then and then how do I know I was Masabl? Is it like a miserable for a week and a half?

SPEAKER_04 1:02:43

You wanna know the answer? Yeah, do you want to know the real answer? The answer is in the Hagada. What's the last what's the last part of the Seder? Hagadya. What's the last part before Hagadia?

SPEAKER_02 1:02:56

Bapasa. Better be nirtah.

SPEAKER_04 1:03:03

What? It better be near. Is it Nirtah? That's the last part. Nirza. What's Nirza? It's wanted. Nirtah means I'm wanted. It's Nirza, right? I saw a Pesha. I think I wrote this in I th I think it says in the Lachtig Akra Hagadah as well. I don't I don't

Knowing You Did Enough

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remember what's Basham. But the answer is that it's called Nirza. Why is it called Nirza?

SPEAKER_03 1:03:28

Or just be called like a hajanallah. What's Nirza?

SPEAKER_04 1:03:33

The Bal Hagadah wants you he anticipates and he's hedging. The yiddin and Khali saw hilig yiddin that are wearing the kittle that spent a month in preparation of cooking, of getting ready for the hiliganacht of Pesach, of Lilithim, Lil Shimuri, Vigarod Vincho, the Hilig Hiligazah that they're gonna go through the entire Sada, the whole thing that lasts four or five hours, and at the end they're gonna feel that they missed the mark. Did they look back and they're starting getting nervous and anxiety? What happened? It's already over, and I put all this time and my wife and my kids and my shvar and like says Ma'alallah. Nirtzah. It's not just Hajjalah, it's Nirza. You're wanted. Ratsuy. Never forget when you're at the end that it's Ratsu. You did your Abidah, you did your part, and Hashem wants you not just to move on and say, okay, it is what it is. No, Ratsuy. It's wanted, it's desired, it's coveted, it's beloved, it's cherished by the Ibishdur. Ki se ha covid, Hashem knows what you put in, and never have second thoughts about it. What do I want to say? It's the same thing, it's everything in life. Everything has a said it. The whole entire year of Mayor Whitzika talks about the fact that the whole year is one big, it's one big conveyor belt, it's one big sivov, it's everything's connected. Rosh Hashanah, Hanukkah, Tishab, it's all it's easy to draw those parallels. But you come to the end of anything, you come to the end of a massahta, you come to the end of a of a of a of a week, you come to right, you feel how would I do this? You got and you come to the end of a three weeks, and then you get into Shabbos Nachmu, it's only at Sayyidza that's telling you that you blew it. Obviously, if you put in the work and you tried and you thought, and you tried to be reflective and you tried to be mindful and sensitive, and as we spoke about working on peeling away ourselves and making space of our Qatar's bracho, yeah, do it. But when you come to Shabbos Nachamu, it's called Shabbas Nachamu because there's Olif, there's Nachama. We went through the process, and Ashram says, now you can be Mismaikh with me. Now we're going to Shivid and Khemta. And don't be an Aiswarf. Don't be don't be an Ib Khacham. We translate that. Those are tough words. Aiswarf means like you're just throwing yourself around. Aiswar varf means to throw. Right. Don't be an ib Khachum means like uber means over. Don't beat the system. Uh-huh. Right? Ahlti Tadikharbe. Right? Don't be super righteous. Hashem says now is that every time everything has a time and place. There's a time of mourning, there's a time of happiness, there's a time of sadness, there's a time of joy. When Hashem says now is a time for nah, then it's Nirza. And if you can't get up and be Raini Balailah, you can't rejoice with me at night, then you're not one of mine. And I believe that's exactly what Shah's Nachmu when we're sitting there in Akumu. If you start thinking, did I do it right? Didn't I do it? Did you sit? Did you keep the halachis? Did you go through it? Did you think about the Gurban? Did he reunite? Did you say kines? Did he think? Did he? Okay. Now is the time that that was now. Now Ashram says, Kumi Raini Balailah Ashram says, Nachmu, Nachmu. Ami Ashram says it. You're the cave, I'm right. So it's the Navi. So now is the time. And if you can't do that, if you can be stuck in the past, then you're not really yearning for something else. Then you're you're giving, you're caving into your anxiety, you're caving into the It's Mamash Asisir, but Nirza, it's rotating, it's the end. Move on, be with the program, be with the ebushta. And if you're not doing that, it's a different religion. It's not yet a chance.

SPEAKER_02 1:06:52

You're such a healthy, happy person. I'm so happy you joined us this evening. Everyone, go subscribe to all of Dunn Jerishau's content. You can find it wherever you get Torah content.

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Okay.

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And Lachttich.org. If you want to check it out, you can do that. If you don't, uh we don't know. They will.

SPEAKER_02 1:07:13

Your content speaks for itself. You're authentic, you're enthusiastic. Thank you. And I really like this last point about not overthinking it, doing what's asked of you, feeling good about the effort, feeling good about being sensitive. These are honest things. These are things that you can't argue with. These are honest good points.

SPEAKER_04 1:07:29

This circles back to what we began with. That the microphones were getting set up. That and something else. That this isn't subjective. This isn't can I or can't I? These are feelings. This is for everyone. This is men, woman, young, old, your grandmother, my grandmother, my wife. It's for anyone ever won. Bahram, old men, man, whoever whoever this reaches, Hashem's gonna decide. But it's about sensitivity for God. It's about sensitivity for ourselves also, and positioning ourselves in the right place and understanding.

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SPEAKER_04 1:08:07

Being aware. When Hashem says there's a time, that was a time of being a sabble, and that was a time, do it now. When Hashem says, get up, you get up. And it's not I can't or uh I'm not a big Tamachum. There's no there's none of these excuses. I love it. You should drive home safe.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:24

I know to you for the second time. You came back because we got the headphones ready to roll. You should have nothing but hash, and you should have a lot of nahasurah from your kids. And when you need a big fancy house with a podcast studio, you'll call me. I have a house, I just need a shed. You do sheds? I tell everyone, whatever you need, I'm selling. Yes. I do sheds. Oh, you're doing sheds?

SPEAKER_04 1:08:49

Oh okay. Good to know.

SPEAKER_02 1:08:50

Maybe I might be able to refer you to somebody. I shall see that we're trying to mourn, and he should um see our efforts and help us to be able to mourn for the base of Megdosh so that we all can merit to see it be built and be a mechaki kate. Then here be a mean, we shall be mechaki kits.