Why Moshiach is a Bal Habos and how to Mourn for the Beis HaMikdash When You Feel Nothing | Rabbi Don Jarashow

Welcome And First Memories

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Without further ado, I think we're good. We had a nice niggla happen at this podcast. Welcome everyone into the Motivation Congregation Studios located in Oak and Vine in Lakewood. We have a very special episode for anyone who wants to join us here and the thousands of people across the Torah world that probably listen. Tens, tens of thousands. Tens of thousands. Hundreds? I'm not sure if it's hundreds of thousands or millions of thousands. Is that a thing millions of thousands? Yeah, now it is. But that listen to the Lechtech Torah podcast that you run and the Motivation Congregation podcast. Just having it in my house as Chosdan. Do you remember the first time we met? Talk to me right off the top of the bat. Where's the lat what what comes to mind as soon as you think the Suda? I can't remember much from that param, but um Was that the first time I met you? What was it? That would has to be. Okay, I guess so that's all I remember. Turn it up. I remember I was it turn it up or was it turn it up? Turn it up. Turn it up. I remember walking up the Ramadaskole steps towards your apartment. I think you were on the first or second floor, the wooden door. I'm wearing some sort of onesie, uh, you know, you what whatever style that would be. I remember the amount of people that were stuffed into your apartment, and I remember that it was nothing but happiness, and that we kept having to take it up another level. Take it up another level. Whether that Mantora or do you know where I'm from? Atlanta, Michigan. Do you know where Do I know where you're from? You're from Muncie, right? I'm from Muncie. Uh well, let me tell you a little bit about let me tell the people a little bit about who they're meeting so that they understand what we're about to talk about. And you have to know not just from what someone says, but from where it comes. Your name is Don Jarashow, true or false. True. Your alumnus of Bheshraga of Muncie. True. You went to the Miriashiva. True and proud. Smicha from BMG. Anyarosh Khabura. Former. You founded a Kolel and served as a show Lameshev at Olami Makarev. True.

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You should do the same. You want to get into that? What's Olami Mekarev? Olami. Olami.

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Olami, I said it wrong. Olami. What is Olami? I want to do it.

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They give away free money? What is it? It's a cube organization. Olami means like my world. It means that every Jew has this recognition, this sense of mission of the world that was created. Bishvili Nivraha Olam. It's uh lead, I don't know if it was found, but uh Rabbi Abi Kassel is very involved in the organization. Reboshikats from Torah Lynx. He's like the liaison. He's amazing. Shout out to uh Torah Lynx. Shout out to Torah Lynx. I think you should put a picture of Ramoshikats right next to Bruchum. I don't I wouldn't say replace a Bruchum, but perhaps next to him. I think would be I think it'd be a good choice.

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He he's he's I think they have he has a photographic memory, they say he built Torah in a way that Moshikats? I think so. Yeah. Did they say something about that? Yeah, yeah, that's what I was saying. Don, you're famous, not just from that Purim studio, that Purim Suda, but you have launched the Lechtech Torah podcast. What's Lechtig? Tell me about Lechtig. How did you start this

Meeting Don And His Background

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thing? Let's figure out who you are before we talk about the 90s. Give it to me raw, give it to me unfiltered. What's Lechtech? They say that on Torah anytime, that you are the founder of the Lechtech Torah podcast, Torah Initiative, Torah something. What is Lechtech.org.

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So what does Lechtig mean, Michal? Lechtech means to go. Incorrect. Lechtech means follow. Follow. So this organization, Lechtig, was founded. It's a long story we're not going to get into tonight. That's it. It's like a series, if not, if not.

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You founded it because of these of of of the things that we're not getting into? Exactly. Well said. Does it have to do with good things or bad things? We can't even answer that. Okay. So let's skip that and we'll come back to it maybe. We can do that. Um so you found a lechtig. A lechtig, for a certain reason that you founded it, is a Torah distribution.

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You want to know what is Lechtig? In two sentences. I'll give you two in like eight words, maybe less. Tirah, Chizik, Kirov platform, four words. Wow. I got it down. You know, like I've always struggled with it. People say, what is Lechtig? Oh, we give Sherm, I'm right, and we do this, and Khabur. That's not what it is. What's the essence of it? Tirah, Chizik, Kirif. Wow. And it's a platform. Tahak. Torah Chizak Kirif. Tahak. It's like a it's like a cousin of khitas.

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It it is anyone who you know, most people actually know, or if they don't know, they will know what Lechtig is. They should subscribe, they should get the content. It's you have a unique ability. Let's just put it straight. You have a unique ability to be able to take Torah and then make it emotionally charged for people because you can sense your authenticity. That's what it means to me. Either way, I brought you into the Motivation Congregation studios this evening because we began the nine days, which is a time period that many people don't look forward to.

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Can I stop you right there? Question for the for you, Mike. I know you're a big uh halakhicist or halakhist? Uh chief decipherer of the law as well of Jewish code? Of Jewish code. So I yeah. So does the nine days start by Shkia? Shkia. What does it start by Tes? And if you're gonna say it's by Shkia, is it any Yeshla Hokal until tas? Like let's say your wife forgot do load of laundry.

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You want to know if I wanted to if I pour myself a glass of wine at 825, Shia was 8.32 in Lakewood, let's say, and you want to know about 60 to 72 minutes after that, around 9.30, could I drink that glass of wine?

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Yeah, I I wouldn't I wouldn't I wouldn't go that far. I guess you know we one can ask the question. I'm talking about something more like more uh monthly, like it's more it's more common. I forgot to do all the laundry, I forgot to wear all my stuff before. I was eating a flash of gazuda. That's a meat salmon. I want to just finish it up. Like, can I can I go two minutes into Shkia? What do you say about that? Or is it a hard stop shkia comes and we're done?

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Uh wow, what a good question. My dad always said, if you don't know, say you don't know. Okay. But I want to think about it. It's a good question, huh? It's a great question. I mean, I feel like the the suffic derisa la Kumra Lakula would come up. Um, it's not a derisa.

What Lechtig Torah Really Is

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It's not a daraisa. One thing I know about the 90s is the Rambam brings that that you're supposed to be Mimid in your Simcha from the beginning of Av, and then the Rambah says that there's something about the 90s. Okay, answer the question. I don't know.

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No, it came up tonight. I I'm I was gonna look it up in Kavitzalachas. That's usually my go-to for Bishmu Kamanetsky's Magnum Opus.

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Yes, right, right back there on my new fancy uh farm shrunk, right there, top left, top left in the corner. Wow, right there, Kavitzalachas.

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By the way, uh what I do want to do is um I do want to Brian. Um I don't want to say I'm close to Bishmuel at all, but uh I'm a huge chassid. He actually gave me a when I was a chassis and the last time I said no, I went with my kids, I make I make an effort to go as often as I can, which isn't that often. I want to go to him after uh sometimes it's been his manim and get a inscribed Qabit alakas one of his farm from the godless himself. Uh-huh. He's a zakanadar, paisakadar, and he should have a richyamim. Um but I do think it's important to have to have uh it's very important. I think it's a maybe should go together.

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Uh in November 10th, five years ago, I called Philadelphia Yeshiva over and over and over again because I wanted to know if I should use the internet to spread Torah. I really wanted to start the motivation congregation. Called him over and over and over because my my Rashushiva Rib Nelson died said the only person who can pass in a question of using social media to spread Torah is Rapsmuel Kamanetsky. So I called the Philadelphia Yeshiva, and finally someone else answers and they tell me that Rapshmule is not available. I'll call back later. He says, What do you want? I finally told him what I wanted. And he said, Oh, Ribshmul doesn't know about social media. I went back to my Rashishiva and they said that some that Rapsmuel, they told me that Rapsmuel doesn't know about social media. My Rasheshiva said, Trave, of course Ribshmuel knows about everything. It's a Zuckin' Ador, ask him to Kasha. Finally got a hold of him. And I said, You think I should use the internet to spread Torah?

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And he said, if you think it will help people, then you should do it. That's all he said. Surprised. That's all I said. I said, What about I'm a Kilo guy and my kids are pure and I don't have internet in my house, and what I'm gonna have to bring in and uh if you think it will help people, then you should do it.

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Is that is that like the roots of all that you've done, all your incredible accomplishments? Well, I started it then. Wow.

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Um it's a fascinating uh I never went on to social media besides for WhatsApp, but um okay, so talk to me about the nine days. I have um my own feelings of um trying to have a cognitive disassociation. Um people have this the TMC table. Uh oh it knocked you right in the studio, yeah.

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It's a it's yeah, I can use a little uh the mahogany's heart. TMC TMC construction.

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Yeah. It should be your first lame the carve. Amen. Um Zeich al-Khorban. Zeichr the Khorban. Okay, so before we got off into the Halacha can you be makeal by Shkia, I want to know like this. Speak. I am 28 and I love to learn Torah and have a good connection with my rabbi, and I like to go to work and make money and pay my bills. Now God asks me to mourn for his holy based on Megdash that I never saw. I never witnessed, and I want to know if you can help me to feel that because I don't feel it. Speaking for myself

When The Nine Days Start

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or for others. I feel the cold shower and the pizza for nine days straight except for Shabbos. But I want to know you seem like a holy it. It seems like you know how to feel it, or it seems like it comes naturally to you. Talk to me.

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I aspire to be that which you said.

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Nothing comes natural, it's and any any any sort of I wouldn't call it feelings, I wouldn't call it being in the right zone, I would just call it sensitivity, which I think is attainable for anyone. Even someone who's distant, someone who's steeped in the wrong things, he's not where his head should be, he's not where his mind should be, he's not where his heart should be. But anyone can work on sensitivity, right? If you're not practicing, if you're not doing the right halachas, you're not sharing shabbas, you can't say, Oh, I have the right feelings towards it, so I can be Sharmash Abbas, you can't do that. But when it comes to when there's certain things in Yiddishkite, like feeling the churban, things like that, where yes, there's halakhas about it, but there's something deeper, there's something more than actions, it's more, it's more about fine-tuning, it's more about chiseling away ourselves, our mind gets wrapped around the world we live in, right? And when we try to minimize that, we try to make space for God, then really anyone is shy to that Avaida, I believe. So I think anything that I will try to share.

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Tell me how I get sensitive.

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Some so we're gonna get there. So how do you get well? First of all, I think it's important to just realize that whoever it is that this message is reaching, they shouldn't say I can't get sensitive, because sensitivity is something anyone can practice. It's something anyone can tap into, right? If there's someone that's in pain, right, anyone can try to be empathetic and they can they can do it. The more that they work and they say this person is pain, they can't get there. So I think there's something special, there's something unique about this time of year, about Tishbov, where it's not like, oh, keep Shabbat's or put on sits or put on the phone or big khalas or say telem. No, there's something different, there's something special in the sense that it's more of a sensitivity. Yes, on Kish Tishabov we're gonna say kinis, and whether you do it or don't do that, or you can get to short, or you can feel it, or you can start crying. That's not that's not the Indian. That's not the that's not necessarily what we're talking about. We're talking about being sensitive to God, talking about making plays for God, and that's something just you know, setting the stage, setting the backdrop, that's something that anyone and everyone can do. You're you're what I'm saying? I love it. I love it.

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Okay because it makes it not strict code of the law, but there's no human in the world that can't be more human, that can't just try to be more to be sensitive, to feel exactly.

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Exactly. Exactly. In terms of the famous question that everyone feels, you feel everywhere that you asked. Again, what was your question? Say it again.

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My question is let's reiterate the question after you reiterate it.

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Because I love the question. We all think it every year, but before we really say something, hopefully it can be meaningful. Let's hear it again from the motivation congregation himself.

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The the the No matter who you are, you're obligated to mourn for the Besa Megdash. The Besa Megdash was the epicenter of the Jewish world with hundreds, cadres of mitzvos. Cadres? Loads. A lot of mitzvos are dependent upon having a Besha Megdash. And terrible evil people burned it to the ground because of our sins, and God is left homeless, and the Jewish people are left homeless, and God says mourn for it. Mourn because Jewish life is lacking without it. My question to you, my dear friend, is that you can't mourn for something that you've never had. You can't mourn for a Zady that you never met.

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Well, that brings it that hit that hits home.

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So explain to me, my dear Don, Don.

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How do you mourn for the Bay Summegdash? Okay. So I'm gonna take you back to a boat ride. I don't know. Probably at least 15 years ago.

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The first time I heard the schmooze. Because I was seeking, I was on a quest. I've been on a journey for some time, Rabbit Brook. This journey, this was I was actually at sea on a boat, and I was listening to shit from Abradinsky. Oh, he's so good. Wanna get should we get into him a little bit now? Maybe he would be like Romish Katz, Ruchmovalitz, and Salah Rodinski.

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Just subscribe to his podcast

Building Sensitivity To Churban

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and listen, the Or Ruven Pi. Yeah, but get me back. You're listening to Reb Ruven. Okay.

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So to Reb Rodinsky. He said the r the but the the reason why again did we didn't prepare this. This is totally off cuff. This is raw. We all this almost didn't happen tonight. Um I actually started I drove home. I was three quarters of the way home. And uh you called me back. Hashim obviously wanted it to happen, so maybe it's for Mi Deya Imla'is Kazois. Maybe it's for this Havens Avenue.

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Exactly.

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So he said the following muscle, which the reason why it's the fee, it's it's on the tip of my tongue is because there's not a year that goes by that I forget this. It's it's my Tishba of every year. It's the question that everyone's asking, but because it's so true, it's so amistic, it resonates so much and it's just natural. This is this is my goal to this this can answer any anyone in a hundred years. We shouldn't have Tishbaf no world. Anyone who this is, I believe for me, this was the answer. It really, I think you can really uh shed light. So let me tell you, let me tell you the story. The story goes the story goes like this It was an old couple who were married for many, many years. Unfortunately, they didn't merit having children throughout those very painful, long, long years. And finally, after about 25 years, there was a ray of hope. There was this specialist, this doctor, that said, Come to me, let me see what I can do. They booked appointment with great anticipation they waited for the appointment. They're hoping that after all of these years of pain, of tears, of soaked pillows, of shattered hopes, shattered dreams, that this would be the end, case the shuasam. They arrive at the doctor's office and it's many hours of procedure, of questions, of tests, and the doctor says, I have good news for you. It's news that's going to change your life. I say, Well, what's the good news? They thought there was only there was only one option. The good news is that we're gonna have the doctor says, the good news is the greatest news and the greatest news of life. We can you can assist if we can help you get pregnant and you can have a child. And the news was unbelievable. They they but they knew there was but the doctor said, Listen, there's one caveat. The caveat is that unfortunately your wife is not going to be able to live.

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And then their stomachs dropped. What do we do?

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On the one hand, we want to have a child, on the other hand, it's it's life itself. Are we gonna is she gonna die to have a child? But they'll be able to have mitzis and etc. And sleepless nights back and forth thinking it over, asking their rov, trying to figure out what's the right thing to do. And finally they come to the decision, they're going back to the doctor, they're gonna go through the procedure, Kachaba. The doctor was able to help Isia Deshmaya, she became pregnant. Nine months later, she had the baby, baby boy. Baby boy's born, so exciting. And of course, along with that comes the tragic news that the mother didn't make it. Okay. A couple years go on, and every year the father would say, Kanash for the wife. It's very, very sad. The boy got older and he was such a Tyrazisa little kid, and it was such a big simcha when he became a little upshram boy to cut the hair and to lick the alephbeys. It was mamish, it was it was unfathomable. The the the simcha de nachas that the father had of bringing up this young child. As little Yaakov got older, he excelled, he did amazing in his shiva, first grade, second grade, he was always the best boy in his class. And in sixth grade already, things already started getting challenging. There was a bully, he started getting ticked off and upset, and he became got a little wild and started acting out. Seventh grade declined a little bit more. By the end of seventh grade, by the time it was the time for his bar mitzvah already, he he was he was really just an entire different different child. And in the beginning of the eighth grade was his bar mitzvah. And he wasn't holding by anything. The summer was a terrible time for him. He was pyruk pyramits. Hardly religious. Hardly religious. And the father thought it was a phase that would pass, but unfortunately he really uh it really stuck through. And the time for his brah mitzvah. And the father said, Yaakov, come, let's let's sit down and talk. I said, Listen. He said, Now it's gonna be a brah mitzvah. You're such a good boy. You bore me so much nah's It's me and you all these years. We're buddies, we're friends. I love you more than anything. I know you struggled the past three years. Can you put it on the phone?

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I'm not asking you for chakras, I'm not asking for nah. And he says, okay, fine, no problem. Okay. A couple days go by and you're getting closer to the art side.

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But unfortunately, between the barmitsa and the yardside again, it was a decline and he wasn't. And this time, though, when the when Yaqub threw off his, he was done with his Tulin, he was done with everything, his father knew like really the chances weren't uh weren't high that he's gonna get him back this time. The yartside was coming up, and it was his first yartside being a bar mitzvah Bakr. And the father comes over to Yaakov and he says, Tatak, let's sit down again. He says, A new Twilin was very hard for you, but listen, Mama's Yartsite is coming up in a few days. It's gonna be your first yarts that is the barkyuvo to say kadish for your mother. He says, like, uh okay, like I'm uh I love you and you know we can still be friends and I respect you, but I'm not coming to shul, I'm not doing it. He says, Yaakov, I I I I don't really know if I ever really sat down with the entire whole story. He says, Ta, I know, like ma but when I was born she died, and sad, and but like you know, we moved past. He says, No, you don't you don't really understand. He says, let me let me walk you through the story. He says, You don't understand. He said, for 25 years we didn't have kids. Went to the doctor, sleepless nights. Your mother didn't just die when you were born. What happened is your mother made a conscious, intentional decision that she's giving up her life so that you should live. And Yaku says, I can't I didn't I didn't know that. He starts choking up and starts tearing in his home perspective that his mother literally made a decision to die for him to change everything for him and he said, How you have a deal?

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I say karash.

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He's quoting one of the Magidim of Yushalim, maybe it's a Brasalam Sajan, said the same thing as with Tishimov. He said, We Takah don't understand. We never saw the Besan Magdash. We never lived in times where there was a Kangadal, where there was the clarity of the Urmatunim, where there was that d Vekas of going to the Besamikdash, of being like the regal, we never saw.

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But one thing is for sure that we know Hashem is in so much pain.

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And although we didn't witness the Besan Magdash, and although we didn't witness those times, but Hashem had everything, and Hashem had destroy all of that, and those are the times we're living in now. So just like that little Yankov who of course acquiesced when he realized the full scope, even though he wasn't there, even though he didn't see his mother, but he understood the severity, he understood the weight of the decision that his mother made to literally give up her life. So he should exist, that he should live, and then it was a no-brainer that he's gonna do whatever he can to memorialize, to commemorate, to pay tribute and respect to his mother. The same thing is with Tishab. We must realize that yes, there's a feeling of distance, yes, there are many thousands of years that have passed since the times of the base of Mikdash. We can never forget that the Base of Mikdash was everything for Ghadah. Hashem is in pain, and we need to do whatever we can to put away our own feelings of disconnect, we weren't there, and say yes, that might be true. But no, one thing is for certain that Hashem is in pain, the Shina is the Galoosa, the Shina is in exile, and as hard as it is during our summer, the sunny days we could be swimming, we could be having fun, we could be eating meat, we could be wearing new clothes, all these great things. But Hashem says for a few days, can you just put your excitement away? Can you just mute yourself a little bit and make space for me because I'm in pain? So, yes, it's the question we're all thinking about how do we do it? How do we attach ourselves to something that's so abstract, that we're so detached from, both in time and physical and emotional. We never saw, we never experienced it. The answer is that it's not it's not about that. It's not about the sticks of the physical mortar mortal structure of the Vesa Mikdash. It's more about realizing that there's a God in pain that does, that gives up everything for us, that does everything. His kindness is endless, he's machakah, he's the person, he's the benevolent king, he's Avinu Malkeinu, he does everything for us. And if we know he's in pain, we have to make space for him, and that's what Hashem is asking. Do we have to stop our entire summer and sit out and do tikkunkhali all day and all that? No, not that's not what Hashem's asking. He's saying for nine days, for three weeks on Tishabov, sit down with me, weep with me, just show me you care. Just show me that our values align. Show me that your pain is my pain. And when we do that, when we show Hashem that we care, that's not just empathizing with God, but that's also the ticket to redemption.

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Am I wrong that the the pain that we're supposed to endure during the nine days, the cold showers, it's not just to make you sad. I don't, I'm not I I think there's a goal of making you minimizing your happiness. But then I think you have to ask yourself, why does God want us to minimize our happiness? How does minimizing our happiness connect with the feeling the pain of God? Because I have less meat or less wine, how does that connect with to me it connects with what you're saying, with the fact that there's God wants you to have some space to pay attention, to kind of pump the brakes on the on the distractions or on on some of the things that we

The Story That Makes Mourning Real

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get involved in so that you could finally feel feel these are things the the things that we're taking that that that that that are pleasurable, sometimes numb, sometimes connect in a way that we get over involved, but when we put the brakes on them, it just creates more space to be able to feel the pain.

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I think that's exactly right. It's exactly dead on. Something like that. No, it's not something like that. That's exactly the point. If a person likes if a person doesn't like meat, likes meat a little bit, it's not like his favorite thing. On an average night, ferricino alfredo or like a mic sandwich, 50-50. So for him, the nine days, it's like, okay, I'll eat ferricini any night. Big ZD, acquaintan parmesan. So for him, that's that's that's not that's not what it's about. It's about knowing that I'm setting limits, that I'm setting boundaries, and that I'm I'm crossing this off. For nine days, this isn't part of my agenda, this isn't part of my schedule, this isn't part of my routine. Let's say I like cold showers more. Okay, that's not the point. The point is that I'm showing God that I'm limiting myself. I'm limiting my materialism, I'm limiting, limiting my bandwidth of what I can do. I'm limited. I am limited. It's showing Hashem, Hashem, I realize you are limited, and I too will limit myself. And Anchiknes Dail, Khazal, Shaqnarch mandated, they delineated the guidelines, the rules of how to do that. So we have a Shachnarch to follow. But beyond the letter of the law is also the meaning, the intention behind it, and that's to tell us that's so that we act, that's so that we conduct ourselves in a way of limitations. That's for nine days a year or three weeks, we're not listening to music, person doesn't like music and say, Oh, for me, it's great. I don't have to, you know, I don't like music anyway. No. The answer is that as a call, objectively, when we're not listening to music, when we're not wearing freshly laundered clothing, when we're not eating meat, we're showing Hashem, we can think about it. These are things that we should be thinking about. Just like that kid Yaakov that when we when he heard, oh, there's a bigger story that my mother gave up her life for me. How can I not shift? How can I not say kadish? How can I not choke up and tear from that? So for us too, wow, Hashem, you're in pain. So the whole entire year, maybe I'm not thinking about you enough. Maybe I'm not thinking of what it means when I say Uvnei, Yushlaim, you're a Quridish every time on a bench, or Yushlaim, you're khabrachmash. Yeah, I don't even know what it means. I never thought about it. But for three weeks, nine days a year, Hashem is saying, just just think about me. Do small things that demonstrate that you know I exist, that demonstrate that you know that I'm in pain, that I am lacking, that my shina has no place to reside.

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And that's it. That's it. This this it's gut-wrenching, it's relatable that the boy in the story duh I wonder what his kaddish looked like. The story doesn't end. So he said, I'm gonna go through and say Kaddish. I wonder what his kaddish actually looked like in the end of the story. If it was sobbing and honest, that makes a great end of the story. It's almost when we sob on Tishabov, it brings to life that you're like a boy who's crying over that he just knows that he's been given the ultimate gift, but he doesn't even know how much he was given.

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That's exactly right. That's exactly right. Spot on.

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When you think about the nine days, I think about the reasons that the Bashan Migdash was destroyed. I think about that Chazal say, well, it's clear from the calendar that we had many chances to save the Bashan Migdash back then. It happened sieges at certain times and certain famines at certain times and certain destruction of the walls, and there was there was an ability for us to save ourselves. But because the base Hamiddash Harisham was destroyed because of Gilearish Vihasdamim and Avaidazara. The second one was because of uh Sinasqenom. Sinashinum. If you think they we don't have to answer this. If you think we rebuilt the base Hamiddash, let's say it comes down from the sky. I think it's a Mach Ligas. Whether it's just gonna be built naturally or it's gonna fall from the heavens. And then it's rebuilt. And Mashiach comes. Do you think we have enough Avas Israel to keep it keep it there? Or let me phrase the question, less depressing. It was destroyed because of something that we had an issue with, something wasn't doing well. It's our job to perfect it to bring it back. And when we do put an effort into it, Ashram will see that and bring it back. My question is when it comes to Avas Yesra. When it comes to building the base Hamikdash, when it comes to people having their differences, when it comes to working on themselves, the nine days are to work on yourself for what it is that we lost. Is there an Avaida? I'm thinking more about Avas Israel, but is there a specific Avaida that you think someone should be more involved in during the nine days? Because what we messed up made us lose it, so what we should do properly will make it come back.

SPEAKER_00 35:19

Right, so I think that's a great question. And I do have an answer. But I think it's a great question. Thank you. You want the answer? Not the answer, an answer.

SPEAKER_01 35:31

I want your answer. The Gumara says, Kolham Asabol, Ayush Laim, Zayhibra Bisam Chasa, right? Whoever mourns of Migdash will merit its rebuilding, rejoice in its rebuilding. Right, we send Yigdal every day. Lifdos. He will redeem who? Mike, who are the Mikhaqates? You and me, baby. No. The ones that are waiting. Me, you, and anyone else who's waiting. You and the crew. Who's longing? So how do you how do you right? I'm saying so it's Khazals, it's Kmartancha, Knesset and Daila, right? So working with those two very fundamental, right? Whoever's Masabal will see it. Haslam sends the redemption to those who await it. Fine. So how do you so Masabal

Limits That Create Space For God

SPEAKER_01 36:26

is simple? Masabal is that you mourn, you mourn, you cry, you mourn. But how do you await? How do you wait? How do you await? Who are you awaiting? Does it say you have to await by running around and hugging people all day? Does it say you have to await by guarding your eyes? Uh-huh. Does it say you have to await by eating kosher? Doesn't there's no there's no uh there's no specification. It says Mishikenu. You know what Moshikeinu is? Who's who are the mechakes? Who are the waiters? Who are the ones that are waiting and pining? Who are they? And what are they pining for? Who are they waiting for? Who is it? Messiah? Yeah, but deeper than that. Uh God. Right. So is there a specific like prescription or are there like specific things that you have to do? Or is it an overall demonstration that I'm awaiting for you, God? And however I choose, however I feel, there are there are I mean there are millions of yidin, right? With millions of different aboidas. This is something that and I think as we as we get farther out of the like confines of yeshiva, which is so important, the the Dalid Khusi Bismeash of Yeshiva, where everyone is the same, and there's one aboid for everyone, but like as we kind of you know continue on on our drop. But yeah, we spread out some of us are good at different things, realizing that like people think different, people learn different, they have different interests, different avidas, have different krichs, some people are strengths, weaknesses, skinny, fat, fast, slow. Exactly. All these different things spiritually as well. Right? So all these different things, right? Hashem created my Rebbe always used to say Rakivagros, Bishraga, used to say, Hashem, you walk into the ice cream store with a hundred different people, right? Likely a hundred different people want a hundred different flavors of ice cream. The Ibish is no different. The Ibish created millions of different people with millions of different. And Hashem doesn't want that. If you're chocolate, that you're giving a vanilla. If you're a big Lamden, you should sit and uh finish. No, if if you're if you're a Lamden, then then learn Mqhaims and pound that. If you're if you're a Vakus taking guy and you eat very hard, yeah, try your best to learn some uh the fim or whatever, but but but but get involved, pound those tell them right. So everyone's got to find their calling, their path. So it's the same thing, hu adin. It's the same sugya for Fatishab. It's the same thing for being a machake cate. It's the same thing for michaque kates. You, every person has to tap into themselves, listen inside to the Nishama, to the silent whispers of the heart, to the echoes and the murmurs of the nafesh and the Nishamah. And and here, what Hashem is talking to me. Hashem wants something from me. What's my tafkid? What's my calling? What's my mission? And when I lean into that, when I heed that call, so for some people, Laksh and Har is very easy. So it's not their Avoidah. Right. They don't have to kill themselves. That's not a demonstration. I don't like the same. It's not showing Hashem all that he it's easy for him not to talk lush and he doesn't talk ever. He's an introvert. He has anxiety if he opens his mouth. So for him, is he being a mikake cate? Is he waiting for the king by not talking? Absolutely not. What's his avoid? His avoid is to go out and to whatever whatever, to Davin or to go out of his house to do mitz or to do fashid because he's an introvert. So to go to follow this, to toy for the velk. It's amazing.

SPEAKER_03 39:57

It cannot be overstated. He was saying it in a way, if I may explain how I understood it.

SPEAKER_01 40:09

It doesn't need an explanation. It's just perfect. It's perfect. Of course.

SPEAKER_03 40:13

It gives the the depth of when I was in Yeshiva, getting the shear is everything. When I was in the first years of Kolel, there was trying to get specifically the Rajba and and or what Rashi's Kuloimar is changing in this. And then I struggled to find what am I supposed to do with my real estate career. But it hit me also that if God wants me to make a paranostic, probably I followed my dash tire where I thought I would have to who knows to be able to what I enjoyed and what and what I started to learn is that wait a second, Judaism doesn't stop when you F the Klimar. It doesn't stop Sonai. And what spoke to me is this new ability to like be marbit's torah or actually now be involved in Khush and Mishbah I want to speak Hush and Mishba Kaila because now I'm involved with someone stole my commission, so now I'm gonna fight back. But now it's a halakha thing. It's it's it's involved in a way that that's what speaks to me. Hill Khav Lashanhara doesn't speak to me. I kind of like speaking Lash and Hara. I mean, I wouldn't say that out loud, like but but meaning when I mean to say that facetiously in a way of that it's not what lights my fire, but when I get a hardcore muster schmooze, I'll listen to it and I'll probably be good. Uh it I could make a Kabbalah to not speak Lashan Hara. It's not my challenge, but it's not what I see in the world. I feel like you Hashem lets you see in the world what you need to see. You can see your own. Why'd you start Lachtig? You saw the world needed something and you wanted to bring something, right?

SPEAKER_01 41:51

100%.

SPEAKER_03 41:52

Each person, it's an opinion of mine who would be their own Torah content creator. They they do need to do Lilmoid and they need to do Lalameid. Because when you're Lalameid, you it you are you start vocalizing and starting a movement of what Tara is yours, and you start to speak out what you're relating to, and each person you start to as a total wants to start a dafy mi on on the on the khushin. Some guy wants to start the dafymi on Ari Kaplan's anthology, something that speaks to him that he's bringing to the world.

SPEAKER_01 42:30

That he's connecting to God with. Yeah, he's connecting to God. 100%. Everybody needs to write a book. So that's machat. So for him, writing uh writing a safer

Awaiting Redemption Through Your Mission

SPEAKER_01 42:41

on. You have an interesting swarm. Masur, halakha, uh siddr, hersh. You want to connect Josh's haran to the dafiayimi or to the Amryamah, to the Raisa, and that's your thing, and that you're gonna write a safer and that that's gonna be your present to the world.

SPEAKER_00 42:58

That's it.

SPEAKER_01 42:58

Okay, so you're being Mikhaq Kate. You're showing Hashem that it's my Tayrah, and I'm designating time every single day, and right? Hashem created the world. The Tamil Ta'hane Kulam. For another person, he can sit and learn all day long. He's the next Abbashu, but he's very hard doing khasir. Okay, so for him, it's cool. So everyone has to realize that there's no objective, there's no one size fits all. This isn't like you know, you go and get your little cap and everyone wears the same one. We we are programmed to think that.

SPEAKER_03 43:23

You know what, you know what people mess up? They could just you know where knocks them off from doing this? Why didn't everyone start a lechtig podcast like like you? I think people compare success is what others do, so they want to mimic that success. So they don't create what it they truly want to bring out. Say that in English. They define success as writing the Mishnah Torah or by learning I Risa or by something that is done in a very mainstream way. So if what they bring to the world is a little not mainstream, they don't define it as success.

SPEAKER_01 44:03

People run away from being off beat. Off the beaten track, doesn't talk to them.

SPEAKER_03 44:10

Well, I I don't want to want to be off the beat or off track. I I mean that they just define their success not by what's natural for them or what they can actually accomplish with their capabilities, but they just make their success based on what the world assumes to be a successful person as opposed to what they themselves can do.

SPEAKER_01 44:33

Fair.

SPEAKER_03 44:34

That's what I mean.

SPEAKER_00 44:35

Yeah, I hear that.

SPEAKER_03 44:37

Um do you do uh Shri Hasdamim or Avaidizara? Not not not in weekdays. Right. Right, right, me too. And Gile Raias, we all try to it's a pretty nasty world that we've got. But we have Vallaman. Shout out to Valemin. It helps the boys and and and Unbelievable. And constant uh the battle for it.

SPEAKER_01 45:03

I think we should share this about the album. How long are we in? Fifty minutes. Fifty minutes. I think it's good day. Much of it's good day. Talk to me. Well I'll cut it out if It's not gonna gedank. I don't remember the whole thing from a spelling, a uh a friend of mine, someone I can call a friend, Hoshvi's. He's great. He's just great. Which side of Rabiruchum? On the side of Rebecca or Rub Radinsky?

SPEAKER_03 45:29

Uh oh, you wanna put him on the wall up here? Yeah, I can't move my wife's um had luck as nearest poster. Can't move the picture of Rabbi. You know, there might be some space above the book closet, above the um book closet. I don't know, we'll see. Anyway, if my landlord let me um expand. Okay, yeah, let's talk to me if we're putting up.

SPEAKER_01 45:49

There's something unbelievable. And this ties in also to mecha kates. If you struggle with Shmear Sanaim, and you want to show Hashem the Mikhaq Kates, that when you walk down the street, putting your head down.

SPEAKER_03 46:01

Someone let's say doesn't struggle with Shmeasanaim. Someone who struggles with their purity and the fact that the world is a cesspool and that the human body is naturally drawn to these things, but yet God says don't be. So you're fighting a serious battle that's an honest battle.

SPEAKER_01 46:17

So someone in that position, your advice is Well, I was gonna tie what he was gonna say, but I was just saying also that we can tie this in also to being Mikhaqi Kates that you can demonstrate, you can show a Shandra Mikhaqi Kates with being Shamirana Nayam, with being Shamir Gh. Like there's no there's no end. I was just protect the body of circling back that we're talking about before, trying to segue into this kind of new uh um new inning over here. But his Y Said was he has he has a question, and this is Tishab Albos because it's the Avaid in Basamikdash. He asks, right, so what's so why can't I mana so he says so the Paiser says the reason is because on Imkipra, on the Holy's Day, by the Avaidah, when he's doing the Moshaid Gaeda, he might have a mahjava Zara that will nullify his certain basically that will call that will that will have in mind a certain lady who want her, and it's gonna cause the husband to die. It's gonna cause the husband to die.

SPEAKER_03 47:21

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 47:22

So fractis. So he says, Vais dois, see from here, we see from here the kayak of the Tsahara of the Sitra Akhra, and we see even that the Khan Goddall is susceptible and he's vulnerable, that even in Yuslam in the Bis of Migdash, Annim Kippur, when he's doing the vaidah, that he might be thinking not about some random lady, but an ish ish, a forbidden woman, a forbidden woman, and he's gonna cause her husband to die, and then he's gonna go marry her, and therefore, from the beginning the lach is that almonas are off limits. This is who says this? This is uh we can ask. Is it Marsha? So there's a Taisha says that's the Mishra says that he's asit al-Amana, so the question is why? So the answer is because this whole Shikotura. But what comes out is that because he might have these thoughts on Yum Kippur in the Qadish, he's gonna kill the man, and he's gonna he's gonna take the layer. So because of that, we preempt that because we realize the qayh of the harab, how strong the force is. Come on, high leveling.

SPEAKER_03 48:35

No, I that that's we gotta find the marking for this.

SPEAKER_01 48:38

But when I heard this, I thanked him. I sent them a message that said, Rabbit Spring. I've seen a lot of mans, but this is this is something special.

SPEAKER_03 48:44

There's a lot of the 12-step program, I think. One of the steps is that you have to have some honesty with the struggle and represent a higher power and then submit to it and be better. But if somebody just this Vart makes it a little bit more real, that um happens to be I have a Pshat in the Toysis. It for me, the more I try not to think about a pink elephant, the more I'll think about a pink elephant. So the holiest times is when I get the silliest thoughts. That's just my Pshaw, by the way. It's not it's not the Psha Remerse Pasperling is is it's the right Psha and Tyson. But that's my Psha in the Mishnah, is that whenever I'm trying to think the most utmost holy in the holiest time when I'm standing in front of the Kiseak cover, I think I'm gonna remember like a joke that my dad told me when I was a kid, something like that. But this this may make me um that is a big kizak. Um you say kinos with a little bit of um fervor. Do you know what the words mean when you recite Kinos on Tishabov? And so I'm actually making a program this year, which Of course you are.

SPEAKER_01 49:44

Yeah, I actually want to talk about that after.

SPEAKER_03 49:47

But um can tell me now I'm live on air.

SPEAKER_01 49:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 49:49

Mendy Fern and I will be making Mendy Fern? Correct. Love Mendy Fern. Shout out to the left-handed hook shot. So I'll control you. We're making uh Tishabov program. Join Reb Mendy Fern and Ravdun Jared Shower for a meaningful, inspiring Tishabov. By the way, is it a great ad, but we need new words besides meaningful and inspiring, even though That's why it's not out. We're good. We're gonna discuss it with you. That's why I said it. We need a synonym for meaningful uh or for inspiring. Morning program, 9 a.m. to one. Gosh, who can sit still from 9 a.m. to one? That's for boys fourth through eighth grade, afternoon program 3:30 to 5:30 approximately for boys second grade and up, uplifting cumsits, kinos, selected explanations and stories. I love it. Okay, great. I love it. So maybe you could uh maybe we'll talk. What time do you want me to speak? Okay, so we'll talk.

SPEAKER_01 50:37

Um corporate sponsors go here. We have Brokhsham five corporate sponsors, some some anonymous ones even, so it's really give a lot of sciatic on this program, but we're hopefully we're gonna be big to Alice for for the for the Tom Reserve community.

SPEAKER_03 50:51

How do I say this? I don't get deleted or canceled. Um even though my wife and I always discuss that if I could just get my podcast to be put into Kherum, I'd finally make it, and

Kinot, Programs, And Shared Pain

SPEAKER_03 51:01

people would subscribe because that's when you you you know you want to read the making of a goddamn or or or other things that are you know forbidden, they go, they go wild. So I'm trying not to say anything like that.

SPEAKER_01 51:13

Maybe they have like a violent about TMC. For what? That don't look at TMC? Like, yeah, that'd be a good that would be a good marketing tactic. Make like an organization, like a like a like an anti like don't look, don't subscribe to TMC.

SPEAKER_03 51:31

Is that the kinos is some of the most incredibly deep Jewish poetry that if somebody did actually not just read them but understood the depth as a college boy puts into Shakespeare, if at least a young Jewish chap would try to put that focus on Rebel Lazar Hakalir and understand the incredible balance in his words, in his in his synonyms, in his total grasp on Chazal in this poem, it would be wonderful. You think the world would be a grab better place? The world would be a much better place.

SPEAKER_01 52:22

If we could learn Rebel, how we would like to learn.

SPEAKER_03 52:30

It's just people hate kinis and people hate hate anything that's in the gray box in the sitter that isn't part of the regular because it it elongates their prayers. But I'm a big fan of the stories. I was always confused about this. Do we kind of just throw all suffering into the three weeks? Like sometimes when I go to a nine days program, it always bother me that someone gets up and talks about I don't know, their great grandfather who lost, was lost in the Holocaust, which is a terrible thing, but it doesn't, it's not really based on MiG Dash. It's all it's all nostalgic. It's all that means hystericalist for those are the bus from the area from out of town. You have people that are from out of town watching you? Indiana, California, shout out Portsmouth, Virginia, shout out Miami, shout out Brooklyn, Brooklyn's out of town because Lake was in town, baby. Such an eclectic group you have.

SPEAKER_01 53:19

Well, it's all a result, it's all uh it's all a manifestation of the gallus. So you can talk about you stop du told him, Tishabov, and I think it makes it just so much more real. It's realizing that there was one Mikara, that there's one source of all pain. This is the whole the whole hawk with the a haq, the schwab and the schwabkin, and uh that's it. You look in the article, they Ayn Shum, but they they talk about this barrich, but the answer is that you don't make new new fangled stuff because it's all really a result. Everything's a byproduct of the original, of the original pain. And the more we believe in that, I think fucker. I think I think I think I mean it sounds like you're a little bit perturbed or uh flummoxed. Flummoxed by like walking into a thing and a guy talking about his grandfather and the holocaust.

SPEAKER_03 54:05

No, I'm into his grandfather and the Holocaust, and I'm not happy that he died, but like different than than God's holy house that got destroyed twice.

SPEAKER_01 54:11

But I think I think really there's a perspective, there's a POV that realizing and associating and drawing a direct line between anything that happens in 2026 to the original Khorban and being cognizant that it's all connected, and that me stubbing my toe or my grandfather that was that perished in the Holocaust or October 7th, and we have like ironclad realization, firm belief that this isn't something new, this isn't something that was like off the script. No, no, this was a this is a direct manifestation of Shine Baglusa that the Sheena is in pain and there's nothing else. We're living in Shrine Baglusa times. It's it's pre-Khurban and post-Khorbin, and we realize that everything post-Korbin is all because of that original Khorbin of the Khorbin bias.

SPEAKER_03 55:04

Let me lay something on you. Go. It's getting late, so we'll only do like another 10 more minutes or so. Whatever works for you, I'm here all night. Um, well, no, because I want you to leave soon because I can go to sleep. I can be here all night. Actually, um wait a second before I lose it. Let me roll something by you. I am an aspiring Jew. You're an aspiring rabbi and realtor. Aspiring rabbi and ambitious realtor. I'm sorry. If you need multifamily buildings in New Jersey or you need a house in Lakewood, 757-679-4497. Isn't that the same number for TMT? See?

SPEAKER_01 55:39

Yeah, it's all one thing. Uh there's no hysteria. Motivation Congregation, Imperial's top producing pizza. Well, if you open up like a restaurant, is that also gonna be like you're gonna get it in the fold? The Motivation Pizzeria.

SPEAKER_03 55:55

And it'll just be part of the your aspire, yeah, yeah, and a and a and a professional pizza maker. When I started it, I bought all the websites for the hat that I could ever think of, so no one could ever steal them. I own the motivationcongregation.com, I own mbrook.com, I own um mbrooktora and muster.com, mbrook business.com like uh I just bought them all for like five dollars each just because I wasn't sure where I was gonna go with it. And there's a church in Phoenix that owns MotivationCongregation.com, so we're motivationcongregation.org because they wouldn't sell it to me.

SPEAKER_01 56:24

It also makes more sense because you're an organization, aren't you? True, it entered the 51c3.

SPEAKER_03 56:28

We are officially 501c3.

SPEAKER_01 56:29

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 56:30

That's good.

Wanting The Mikdash To Serve Fully

SPEAKER_03 56:30

Let me tell you why. And you tell me if if I'm if I'm um too aspiring and not and don't have my feet on the ground.

SPEAKER_01 56:39

Do you think any of your listeners are gonna make it in an hour and three minutes and say I'm just curious. Um my mom. Okay. Oh, that's okay, that's enough.

SPEAKER_03 56:47

My wife. Really? Totally. She will. Um your wife. Not even that when that goes. Just say yes. Just say yes. I'm not gonna say yes, it goes without saying. Okay. Wasn't even on the table. My grandparents. And my father and parents. You know, anyone who's a content creator and a trying to be a low-mo de l'alamaid guy, if you're doing it for your listeners or subscribers, you're out. You're out. Out. Do it because this is really fun to do. And whether or not anyone listens to us, it doesn't matter because it's fun for us to preach our ideas into these microphones. Yes. 100%. Very well said.

SPEAKER_01 57:26

Couldn't think of a better thing to do with my time.

SPEAKER_03 57:28

Um So there's 613 mitzvos. You know, like we can only do 90 of them now.

SPEAKER_01 57:35

Right.

SPEAKER_03 57:35

So I try to be a good one. So you can ask me which one's my favorite one because I'm gonna pack out. Which one? Which one do you mean? Which one's your favorite mitzvah to do? Don't do that. I'm not gonna ask you that. What is your favorite mitzvah? I don't know. Believe me.

unknown 57:46

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 57:48

I think I like Simcha Syanth.

SPEAKER_01 57:50

What were you gonna ask? I just wanted to make sure you were gonna ask what I did.

SPEAKER_03 57:53

Okay, what was I gonna ask you? I was gonna ask, I was gonna ask you that I was gonna tell you, you know why I want to basic McDush? Nope. But I want to know.

SPEAKER_02 57:59

Because there's God put me in this world to serve him and he said, bring me 613 mitzvos.

SPEAKER_03 58:08

And I wanted to be the most deliciously brought mitzvos. I want it to be a cowboy steak with a fancy glass of the cave wine. I want you to bring it in perfect crystal and serve it to me with all 613 mitzvos. You see, we can only do like 90 of them now. So we can only serve God with plastic silverware and with cheap turkey, and we can't even give him the product that he wants us to give. So if we're aspiring to be good Jews, sometimes I think, well, God, can you give me the base on Megdas back? Because I want to actually do what you're asking me, but I see I can't get that done unless you give me this so that I can actually give you back that.

SPEAKER_01 58:52

Interesting. You feel me? Yeah, the Peleoites talks about even uh Lentis today, he talks about doing mitz with a seebra with khabura. It's ischas, it's called Khabura.

SPEAKER_03 59:05

And he wrote amazing. That was last week's podcast, the weekly pasha podcast, the Kay of a Khabura. Gotta have a Kabura. Okay, go for it. I'm telling you, there's something special here. Yeah. Okay, the Peliotes, Khabura. Khabura like a punch in the face where it's wound, or Kabura like joining a congregation. Which one do you think? First one. Okay, the second one. Go.

SPEAKER_01 59:24

Which one? The second one. Okay, good. Khabura. Of doing things with a con with uh with a congregation. Do you think he was talking about doing things with the motivation congregation or any congregation?

SPEAKER_03 59:35

He probably was talking about doing things with the motivation congregation that you should hit the like, subscribe, rate your own.

SPEAKER_01 59:39

It was Laiman Bayakama, like I didn't even have to say it. So funny. IC tests, Peliites, Ice Chas. Okay, so I'll tell you so no. He said So the So I I was actually I was borderline astounded by his uh it was like an audible thing to write, but he wrote it today and we're talking about this. But this Nakuda Yesanites is an audible. Yeah, that doing things. Well, he's not joking 200 every day. Join Haxik, by the way. Start a WhatsApp group, got 200 people, and you can have a group. I have one. You should do it also. I'm in.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:11

Send me the group. Like, subscribe, rate, review, donate. Wait, but first tell me the tell Paliites. Get into the Dali nuts. Shout out to Haksik or Rice.

SPEAKER_01 1:00:19

No, Haksik. So he says that there's something extremely important of doing things with a mitzvah, he's told a dominant with a minion, and they get all these amains and he says that if you dive in the khidas, then Hashem scrutinizes fila and he and he takes out his magnifying glass, and you can't, it can't be Ulah, and might even be uh he calls it it might even be disqualified and in vain and all these things. And then he says, So the reason he like writes an insumation says like Bakr Khali sa call after we discuss all this, you should always he says like you should always do your mitzhis with a khaburah with a glow. Drop it to the microphone. Should always, but this is why I have the Holly Land because you don't have to look for the mic, it just stays right there.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:00

I mean that's it's good to start off your podcast with that until you go, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 1:01:06

He says the reason why you should do all your mitzhis with a minion with uh with khaburah is so that you do all your mitzhs in the most optimal level. So it means you gotta go uh Sheikh Lulov, you gotta go Davin, you gotta go learn, do everything with that so that you can maximize on everything you do in the most optimal level to bring Hashan the greatest Nachasurah. He doesn't write that by everywhere, but I just thought today you're saying this word about the reason of Daven for the Pisamikdosh is so that we can ask Hashan to give us what we need to do to serve him the most optimal level and punk this on the palyotes today. So I thought I thought I thought it would I I thought it would be remiss.

SPEAKER_03 1:01:41

You like that word? It's a great word. It's a rebbier word, it's a good Rebbe word. Your old Plutchak word. He's he's he's very shot out. Big brist this past week. Big, big, big brisk. He named it after Mike Trass, baby. Big shocker there. I had 10 bucks on that one. Yeah. He was gonna name it after Mike Trass, but I didn't win any money because it was right. So but the odds were in my favor. But you heard what I'm saying. I hear what you're saying, totally. Okay. Let's end with this. Cool. I am now sitting back in my chair. Matsu Shabbas Parshas Nachamo. Shabis Nachamo. And the morning is over. What's something I can do that would be considered I had a successful nine days? Tell me successful nine days. Give me something not like you.

SPEAKER_01 1:02:25

So Nishiva would say that the Vedas would just start now. Now is really the time to start being Misabl.

SPEAKER_03 1:02:29

Right. But tell me But should be Masabo, and then and then and then how do I know I was Masabal? Is it like a miserable for a week and a half and then You wanna know the answer?

SPEAKER_01 1:02:37

Yeah, do you think that's real answer? The answer is in the Hagada. What's the last what's the last part of the Seder? Hagadya. What's the last part before Hagadya?

SPEAKER_03 1:02:48

Bhapesa. What's it called? What's the last part?

SPEAKER_01 1:02:54

Better be nirtah. What? It better be near. Is it Nirtah? That's the last part. Nirza. What's the Nirtah? It's wanted. Nirtzah means I'm wanted. It's Nirtah, right? I saw a Pesha. I think I wrote this in I th I think it says in the Lachtig Akra Hagadah as well. I don't I don't remember what's Basham. But the answer is that it's called Nirzah. Why is it called Nirza? It should be called Saif

Knowing You Did Enough

SPEAKER_01 1:03:20

or just be called like a Hajj Allah.

SPEAKER_00 1:03:22

What's Nirza?

SPEAKER_01 1:03:25

The Balhagadah wants you he anticipates and he's hedging. The yiddin and Khali Sol, Hilig Yiddin that are wearing their kitl that spent a month in preparation of cooking, of getting ready for the hiliganacht of Pesach, of Lilithim, Lil Shimurim, Vigarod Vincho, the Hilik Hiligazah that they're gonna go through the entire Sayyidah, the whole thing lasts four or five hours, and at the end they're gonna feel that they missed the mark. Did they look back and they're starting to get nervous and anxiety? What happened? It's already over and I put all this time and my wife and my kids and my shvar and that says it's not just hajjanah, it's nirtsah. You're wanted. Ratsuy. Never forget when you're at the end that it's Ratsu. You did your abwidah, you did your part, and Hashem wants you not just to move on and say, okay, it is what it is. No, Ratsui. It's wanted, it's desired, it's coveted, it's beloved, it's cherished by the Ibishdur. Kise Ha covet, Hashem knows what you put in, and never have second thoughts about it. What do I want to say? It's the same thing, it's everything in life. Everything has a say it. The whole entire year of Mayor Witzaker talks about the fact that the whole year is one big, it's one big conveyor belt, it's one bigov, it's everything's connected. Rosh Hashanah, Khanaka, Tishv, it's all it's easy to draw those parallels. But you come to the end of anything, you come to the end of a massacre, you come to the end of a of a of a of a week, you come to right, you feel how would I do this again? And you come to the end of a three weeks, and then you could get into Shabbos Nachemu, it's only at the sayitr that's telling you that you blew it. Obviously, if you put in the work and you tried and you thought, and you tried to be reflective and you tried to be mindful and sensitive, and as we spoke about working on peeling away ourselves and making space of our Qadda's brau, yeah, do it. But when you come to Shabbas Nachemu, call Shabbas Nachemu because there's Olif, there's Nachama. We went through the process, and Ashram says, now you can be Mismaich with me. Now we're going to Shivid and Khemta. And don't be an Aiswarf. Don't be don't be an ib Khacham.

SPEAKER_03 1:05:30

Translate that, those are tough words.

SPEAKER_01 1:05:31

Aiswarf means like you just throwing yourself around. Right. Don't be ibchach means like uber means over. So don't be don't don't beat the system. Uh-huh. Right? Alti Tadikharbe. Right? Don't be super righteous. Hashem says now is that every time everything has a time and place. There's a time of mourning, there's a time of happiness, there's a time of sadness, there's a time of joy. When Hashem says now is a time for naqamah, then it's nirtzah. And if you can't get up and be Raini Balailah, you can't rejoice with me at night, then you're not one of mine. And I believe that's exactly what Shah's Nachmu when we're sitting there in Akumu. If you start thinking, did I do it right? Didn't I do it? Did you sit? Did you keep the halakhas? Did you go through it? Did you think about the urban? Did you reunite? Did you say kines? Did he think? Did he? Okay. Now is the time that that was now. Now Ashram says, Kumi Raini Balaila, Ashram says, Nachmu, Nachmu. I mean, Ashram says it. Yamala Kaifam, right? So it's the Navi. So now is the time. And if you can't do that, if you can be stuck in the past, then you're not really yearning for something else. Then you're you're giving you caving into your anxiety, you're caving into the It's Mamash Asayitir. But it's Rotti, it's the end. Move on, be with the program, be with the Abishta. And if you're not doing that, it's a different religion.

SPEAKER_03 1:06:44

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SPEAKER_03 1:07:05

Your content speaks for itself. You're authentic, you're enthusiastic. Thank you. And I really like this last point about not overthinking it, doing what's asked of you, feeling good about the effort, feeling good about being sensitive. These are honest things. These are things that you can't argue with. These are honest good points.

SPEAKER_01 1:07:21

This circles back to what we began with. That the microphones were getting set up. That and something else. That this isn't subjective. This isn't can I or can't I? These are feelings. This is for everyone. This is men, woman, young, old, your grandmother, my grandmother, my wife. It's for anyone ever won. Bahram, old man, man, whoever whoever this reaches, Hashem's gonna decide. But it's about sensitivity for God. It's about sensitivity for ourselves also, and positioning ourselves in the right place and understanding. Being a weir. When Hashem says there's a time, that was a time of being a sabble, and now it's a time, do it now.

Closing Blessings And Subscriptions

SPEAKER_01 1:08:06

When Hashem says, get up, you get up. And it's not I can't or uh I'm not a big Tama Khacham. There's no there's none of these excuses. I love it. You should drive home safe.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:17

For the second time. You came back because we got the headphones ready to roll. You should have nothing but has and you should have a lot of nahasrah from your kids. And when you need a big fancy house with a podcast studio, you'll call me. I have a house, I just need a shed. You do sheds? I tell everyone, whatever you need, I'm selling. Yes, I do sheds. Oh, you're doing sheds?

SPEAKER_01 1:08:42

Oh okay. Good to know.

SPEAKER_03 1:08:43

Maybe I might be able to refer you to somebody. I shall see that we're trying to mourn, and he should um see our efforts and help us to be able to mourn for the base of Megadosh so that we all can merit to see it be built and be a mechaki kits. Then be a mean and we shall be mechaki kits.