Jan. 14, 2026

The Art of Delivering the Perfect Compliment: The Three Things You Need to Know

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Season 8

Words can lift a soul or leave it flat, and the difference often comes down to how specific, empathic, and generous we are. We take a focused look at the craft of giving compliments that actually motivate, exploring the science of why targeted praise feels so good and the ethics of honoring others without holding back. This isn’t about flattery or empty “nice job” gestures; it’s a practical approach to seeing real effort and naming it in a way that energizes.

We start with specificity, showing how concrete feedback—calling out the exact choice, passage, or action—beats vague praise every time. You’ll hear why the brain responds better when recognition maps to clear behaviors and how simple word choices can turn a compliment into a lasting boost. From there, we move into empathy: the skill of noticing the hidden labor behind the result. When you walk a mile in someone’s shoes, you spot the struggle no one else sees and can tailor your words to what they value most, whether that’s courage, craft, or consistency.

We close with a generous philosophy of honor. While seeking glory for ourselves can be risky, giving honor to others is a gift we should not ration. Honest, abundant recognition strengthens relationships, builds trust, and creates a culture where excellence is noticed. Expect practical, real-world phrasing you can use today, plus a clear push to act: pick one person and deliver a timely, specific compliment that names what they did and how it moved you. If this resonated, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a lift, and leave a review with one compliment you plan to give this week.

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00:01 - Why Compliments Matter

00:37 - Three Rules For Better Praise

00:57 - Be Specific And Skip Vague Words

01:21 - Use Empathy To Tailor Praise

01:45 - Pour On Honor For Others

02:22 - Closing Charge To Act

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Delivering a well-timed, genuine compliment is such an extraordinary thing.

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It's such a tool in our Bane Aldum Le Chavero.

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When you can bestow a commendation, some congratulations, some recognition in somebody's hard work and something that they've done, something that they're working hard at, you will put wind in their sails, you will give them motivation, it acts like a drug, it has a mood-enhancing effect.

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And when you're honest and when you're sincere, it has powerful, long-lasting ramifications.

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So here today we're gonna speak three different halachos and how to give proper compliments so we can harness this great tool in our bin.

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Adam Lechaver, this L number one.

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When you give a compliment, science tells us that the brain and the person will enjoy a compliment that is more specific.

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So don't just compliment the chazin that it was a nice dovening, or God forbid, say the S-word of Shkayach.

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But say that tune you use for Kedusha, I loved it.

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I was in tears.

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I love when you Daven.

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And your Kedusha is fantastic.

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It resonates better.

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Number two, use empathy when giving a compliment.

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Try to put yourself in their shoes.

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See what it is that they're working really hard on, that maybe they're not receiving any recognition for, and compliment that when you can walk a mile in their shoes and understand what's going on in their head, you can perfectly tailor make your compliment.

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Number three, remember this from a Bistral Salantar, an unbelievable tradition, that while we are supposed to refrain from honor seeking and push off any forms of covet, that only goes for ourselves.

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But when it comes to the covet of your friend, pour it on.

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Pour the honor on, double it over.

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You are amazing.

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Your kiddosha is better than Health got.

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You should have a Madison Square Garden rented out concert just for your Kedusha.

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You don't know what it could do for a person.

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Great person, a smart person once said that I can live for two months at a time from one single compliment.

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Unbelievable.

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Give honest praise.

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Pat your fellow on the back.

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You will put air in his sails.

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You will give him a pep talks of motivation and excitement.

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So go ahead.

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Love your neighbor as yourself and give him a genuine, well timed, specific compliment.